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127: Cultivating “Biblical Eroticism” with Dr. Jennifer Degler
In our Christian culture, we’re sometimes afraid of the word “erotic,” thinking it has something to do with unsavory media or loose morals. Many of us grew up in a culture where anything sexually exciting was considered less-than worthy or shameful. However, our...
How to Write a Love Letter
“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate” - Shakespeare, Sonnet 18 The love letter is arguably the oldest and most romantic gesture of affection. We can find love letters at archeological sites that date back hundreds of...
7 Household Items to Spice up Your Marriage
My husband loves my family. Even when we were dating he fit right in with my siblings, would visit my aunts and uncles without me, and became “best bros” with my cousin after 15 minutes of knowing each other. We still joke that everyone in my family is trying to steal...
126: Sex Positions for Connection and Pleasure
It's March Madness in the United States--the NCAA college basketball tournament. And a lot of people create brackets where they guess ahead of time which teams are gonna win and come out on top. In getting in the spirit of this tournament, we thought we'd have some...
“Spring Cleaning” Your Marriage
Spring is coming! This week in my hometown we finally saw the sun, and have been getting rain storms instead of snow. So that’s progress, right? Spring is my favorite season. It is full of hope: hope I will get to the end of the semester, hope the sun will come back,...
Finding a Sex Therapist
How do you find a sex therapist? Many couples have periods in their relationship where their sex life is struggling. This can be due to a number of factors, and more often than not it is the culmination of several factors. If you are feeling hopeless, you may need...
When Past Sexual Abuse Haunts A Marriage with Dr. Wyatt Fisher
One source I found states that one in five women experience sexual assault or unwelcomed sexual attention. Trauma from sexual abuse is ugly and can interfere with a healthy and thriving sexual relationship in marriage. Today my guest is Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a marriage...
5 Spicy Bedroom Games
Bedroom games! Early in our marriage, my husband and I lived with my parents for a few months while we saved some money. We lived there with my parents and three youngest siblings. My little siblings LOVE to play games. We played bored games, card games,...
Holding Space: When Your Spouse has Sexual Trauma
Trauma is not something I would ever take lightly. I have been fortunate enough in my career to work with many women who have experienced sexual trauma. I have sat with them as they went through nightmares, flashbacks, memory gaps, and the painful process of healing....
March Madness: Bedroom Edition
Which Sex Position is Your Favorite? It's March Madness! This is the time of year when college basketball fans try their hand at predicting the outcome of the NCAA men's basketball tournament. For me, I have always been the black sheep in a very sporty family. When...
Dangers of Duty Sex with Cami Hurst
One complaint I hear a lot from couples is where they feel like their spouse is consenting to sex but isn’t enthusiastic about it. These reports sound like, “let’s just hurry and get this done.” “I know it's been a while so let me give you sex so that you’ll get off...
Moving on from Duty Sex
Many of us have heard the phrase “duty sex.” For some of us, it may be a regular occurrence in our marriages. Although it seems harmless to have sex with your spouse when you don’t want to, it can actually do damage to your sexual desire and safety. On our podcast...
Why Play Bedroom Games?
We have a family legend about when my mom and dad were dating. He invited her over to have a game night with him and his friends. He jokingly said, “yea, we are going to play strip poker”. At the game night, they did in fact play poker. When my mom lost her first...
Leaving Purity Culture Behind
Purity culture has become a buzzword on social media. A few weeks ago, we had Brandi Harris on our podcast to talk about moving on from purity culture and developing your own eroticism. Here, we are going to talk about what purity culture is, unpack the bad from the...
123: Next Level Sneak Preview: Getting Out Of A Rut
As I sat at my desk, planning today's special episode with you in mind, I reflected on the progress my wife and I have made in our marriage over the last six years, a lot of which is the catalyst for why we're doing this important work with Get Your Marriage On! And...
Increasing the Love in our Marriages
There is a question that philosophers, scientists, and artists alike have been trying to answer for centuries: What is love? Some believe it is an emotion, others believe it’s a choice. Some claim love is an evolutionary trait designed to further the human race. But...
What Makes a Wife Sexy?
What makes a wife sexy? Although it seems like a silly question to some, I can almost guarantee every wife has asked herself (or her husband) a form of this question. It may sound more like “why did you marry me?” or “Do you even want me?”, but the general sentiment...
Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity with Tony Overbay
Holy smokes, this episode is jam packed with so much goodness and truth bombs. You’re about to hear Tony and I get a bit vulnerable as we share some of our mistakes and lessons learned about growing more emotionally mature in our relationships. Ever accuse your spouse...