Get Your Marriage On Blog
Why Most Couples Can’t Talk About Sex—and How to Fix It
Many couples silently wrestle with desire gaps, fear, and the ache of emotional disconnect when something doesn’t land the way they hoped. A few years ago, my wife and I were driving home from a great date night. The conversation had been light, full of laughter, and...
234: Three Cringe-worthy Marriage & Intimacy Advice, According To A Therapist
Have you ever received really bad marriage advice? Today I have the privilege of interviewing Kendra Nielson, a fellow marriage coach and therapist. Together we address common pieces of marriage advice that often miss the mark, such as "Never go to bed angry,"...
Reigniting Intimacy Without the Exhaustion
If initiating intimacy has started to feel like more effort than excitement, you’re not alone. A lot of couples hit this phase—where one person feels like they’re always the one making the first move. It can be frustrating, even a little disheartening. But the good...
Sheets & Ladders 2.0
We launched Intimately Us, a mobile app designed especially for married couples, over four years ago. This app helps couples improve intimate playtime, as well as providing a way to record precious and intimate moments of connection in the app's private intimacy...
233: It’s Never Too Late to Reinvent Your Marriage: A Sextimony
I love helping couples through Get Your Marriage On to help them through challenges, to overcome issues in intimacy, and to walk away with feeling like they have a brand new lease on their marriage and realizing how much joy and fun that a good sexual...
How to Handle Sexual Disagreements Without Hurting Your Marriage
Sexual desire is deeply connected to a sense of freedom and emotional safety. The moment sex starts feeling like an obligation, a power struggle, or a way to keep the peace in your marriage, it’s no surprise that desire begins to wane. A woman recently wrote to me...
232: Why So Many Marriages Struggle with Sex (And What to Do About It)
Just about every couple deals with libido differences from time to time. It seems though, as couples approach middle age and begin to face the second half of their life, the differences in sexual desire, which may have been a back burner issue in the marriage up until...
What Makes Oral Sex More Pleasurable? Women Weigh In!
We learned last year that about 78% of the ladies that follow us on Instagram say oral sex is part of their marriage. This is consistent with the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, an annual study performed by Indiana University. The same study also...
231: Learning to Love Your Body: A Story of Hope from a Boudoir Photographer
Everyone struggles with feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance from time to time. Our bodies are sacred; as the Bible says, we're created in God's image. Yet the enemy of our souls does what he can to discredit and devalue our worth, often by casting shade about...
March Madness 2025: Bedroom Edition
Let's Try Something New! In the years I've spent working with couples and interviewing guests for my podcasts, one consistent theme that stands out is that those that are willing to push themselves a little outside their comfort zone experience the most joy and...
The Science Is In: Faithful Couples Have More (and Better) Sex
As a marriage coach that specializes in helping couples improve sex and intimacy, and as a believer and religious person myself, whenever I come across research about religious behavior and sex, it captures my attention. Especially considering how I struggled to...
230: Upping Your Oral Sex Skills & Adding Adventure to Your Intimacy
A recurring theme I've noticed in over 200 episodes of the Get Your Marriage On podcast is that those who are willing to push themselves a little outside their comfort zone experience the most joy and growth in their relationships. And this is also consistent with my...
How to Talk About Fantasies with Your Spouse—Without Fear
When I first started learning about fantasies, I assumed that if someone had a sexual fantasy, it must mean they wanted to act on it in real life. But I’ve since learned—that’s not always the case. Sometimes, when a spouse hears their partner’s fantasies, they might...
229: Optimal Sexual Experiences: 8 Factors Backed By Research with Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz
If you were to pause and think about your very best sexual experiences that you've ever had, can you identify what made them so great? For many years, academics studying human sexuality at universities were primarily interested in figuring out what goes wrong in...
Are You Missing Out on This Intimacy-Boosting Secret?
Have you ever wondered if your fantasies are normal—or even if you have any at all? You’re not alone! Many people feel unsure or even guilty about their desires, but the truth is, fantasies are a natural and exciting part of human sexuality. This week in our Facebook...
228: Why Perfect Sex is Ruining Your Love Life (And What to Do Instead)
Do you ever feel like a failure at sex? In this episode, I'll be breaking down why perfectionism is the enemy of good sex and how you can build a virtuous cycle of intimacy with small, consistent wins. I'll share real stories, practical strategies, and a fresh way to...
Two Game-Changing Secrets to Deeper Intimacy
I recently revisited a book that shifted the way I think about sex. Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz and Dr. Dana Menard, sex researchers from the University of Ottawa, took a different approach than most studies on sexual intimacy. Instead of focusing on problems, they asked a...
227: How to Cool Down Your Nervous System to Heat Up Your Sex Life
The number one libido killer is stress. And experiencing stress from time to time is just a part of life; however, there are skills out there that'll help you manage it better. One of the black belt sex tips I often teach is a concept called "calm the heck...