It’s a typical evening in the Severson household. My husband and I are watching TV. Suddenly, something gets me aroused. Maybe it’s a romantic line in the...
Intimacy & Emotional Needs
Commuter Marriages: Keeping the Spark Alive
If you prefer to listen: here is our podcast on Commuter Marriages Many couples, for a variety of reasons, have to live apart for a time. This experience is...
How to Write a Love Letter
“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate” - Shakespeare, Sonnet 18 The love letter is arguably the oldest and...
“Spring Cleaning” Your Marriage
Spring is coming! This week in my hometown we finally saw the sun, and have been getting rain storms instead of snow. So that’s progress, right? Spring is...
Holding Space: When Your Spouse has Sexual Trauma
Trauma is not something I would ever take lightly. I have been fortunate enough in my career to work with many women who have experienced sexual trauma. I...
Moving on from Duty Sex
Many of us have heard the phrase “duty sex.” For some of us, it may be a regular occurrence in our marriages. Although it seems harmless to have sex with...
Increasing the Love in our Marriages
There is a question that philosophers, scientists, and artists alike have been trying to answer for centuries: What is love? Some believe it is an emotion,...
How to Change for the Better
This week on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast , we talked with Lair Torrent about his book the Practice of Love. Torrent is a licensed Marriage and Family...
Busting the Myth of Sexual Compatibility
I made the decision early in life that I was going to wait until I got married to have sex. This was not a popular belief in high school. Many of my friends...
Mindfulness in Sex
Setting the Scene Readers, I have a confession to make. As I sat down to write this post, I was the farthest thing from mindful. I needed to get this...
Intimacy: Intention, not Intervention
This week we got to talk with Dr. Dave Schramm on the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast. Dr. Schramm is a professor of Family Life in the Human Development and...
Uncompromising Intimacy
This week on our podcast we got to talk to Alexandra Stockwell about her upcoming book, titled Uncompromising Intimacy. Here, we are going to learn how to...
Condensed Intimacy Course: Part 2
Welcome back! This is part two of our condensed intimacy course. Last week, we introduced a framework of stage 1, two, and 3 sex. You can find part one...
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner”...
Sex and Intimacy Coaching: the What and the Why
To get good at something, everybody needs a coach. Olymipans have a coach. NFL teams have coaches. My son’s tennis team has a coach. It stands to reason...
Sexless Marriage: How to Break the Cycle
A sexless marriage is, for our purposes, a marriage where the lack of sex is distressing to either or both parties. A sexless marriage is often perpetuated...
The Art of Sexual Desire
Desire is "a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen" (quote taken from Google). Sexual desire is encompasses your...
Male Entitlement and How to Combat it
Male entitlement refers in general to the cultural phenomena where males feel entitled to women’s bodies, sex, or favors. This is a very widespread and...