Is sex the #1 conflict in your marriage?
Let's fix that!
How it Works
1Various Monthly Coaching Calls
Approximately 8 calls a week with our certified relationship coaches, all at various times to fit within your busy schedule.
2In-depth Course
Over 40 bite-sized videos across 10 modules. These guide you through the process of transforming intimacy in your marriage.
3Community
Accelerate your growth as a couple by joining a community with other peers. Men’s, women’s, and other group discussions included.
Meet couples that transformed their marriage
Hear About Their Experience
Keys to REAL change
What Makes Us Different?
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Expert-led Coaching
Although information is always helpful, most couples need help with implementation and knowing what their next steps are.
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Men's & Women's Focus
Building a healthy intimate relationship takes teamwork. Our program is specifically designed to support men and women with their specific needs to grow emotionally and sexually closer together.
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10 Module Course
Over 13 hours of video content, and a 124-page companion guide to help you identify what patterns are blocking more meaningful connection in your marriage. Watch a sample of the first module here.
Next Level Membership
Get all this & more completely free for you AND your partner!
- Personal Welcome Call
- 6-8 Group Coaching Calls Per Month
- PDF Workbook
- Full Course Access
- Priority Access & Discounts to GYMO content
- Community Discussion Groups
- Ask a Coach Forum
- Exclusive Private Podcast
- Monthly Special Guest Interviews
- Weekly insider Email
- Additional Free Workshops
- Additional Free Courses
Ready to Invest in Yourself & Your Marriage?
Taking the next step to investing in your marriage can be hard, but struggling in your relationship is much harder. You and your spouse deserve to experience thriving love and intimacy!
We strongly believe that you don’t need to stay stuck in a rut, having the same conflicts over and over again.
Having a passionate, intimate marriage is within your reach.
Get a free month! To make it easier, your first month is on us.
If you’re interested in joining the program but have questions, schedule a free call with our team.
For you & your spouse!
Who This Is For
The Next Level program is for couples in an otherwise happy marriage but wish things were better when it comes to sex and intimacy.
People with a faith-based background are particularly welcome.
This program also helps with struggles stemming from overcoming pornography use, “good girl” / “good boy” syndrome, sex positivity, emotional closeness, getting couples on the same page, and overcoming gridlock.
Higher Desire Spouses
- Crave more passion, frequency, and variety in sex
- Want to feel wanted
- Wish sex felt more natural and free in the marriage
- Tired of feeling rejected
Lower Desire Spouses
- Want to be cherished, and not just for sex
- Crave a deeper emotional connection
- Tired of arguments about sexual intimacy
- Tired of feeling distant
Dan Purcell
Dan is a Christian Coach that specializes in helping couples improve intimacy in their marriage. He’s also the founder of Get Your Marriage On, a podcast host with over one million downloads, and the creator of several marriage apps.
Amy
Amy is passionate about helping couples move from stuck to thriving! She has a passion for helping clients become more connected to themselves in an honest and kind relationship. When you’re feeling stuck in your relationships, Amy can help you up level your relationships.
Tammy
Tammy specializes in helping women overcome “Good Girl” syndrome as well as helping men gain skills in intimacy with their wives. She has a passion for helping others learn how to really see what a healthy, intimate relationship looks like as she continues to learn and grow in her own relationship.
Try it for yourself
Ready to do away with conflict around sex in your marriage for good? It’s absolutely possible. Let’s do this together.
Join The Program
Next Level: $96 per couple
- Your first month is free!
- After you register you’ll receive instructions to invite your spouse to register.
- You’ll then schedule your complementary welcome call so we can personally welcome you to the program!
Testimonials
Gave Us Hope
“We really appreciated the coaching calls. It was so eye opening to hear and see that we are not the only ones. It also gave us hope that things could change and they did. The workshops were good. The regular Get your marriage in pod casts were good. We especially like the Blow Jobs Aren’t just for Him episode among others.
Despite being married for 25 years, we feel like newbies and inexperienced. We loved all the new ideas and mindset changes we went through. We are now comfortable talking about sex together and feel like we can progress more.”
M & P
"This course was like a masters degree in sexuality."
N & B
Answer to My Prayer
“We have enjoyed this subscription, along with the classes. You have taught us so much and we feel like we are a stronger couple now. You helped us get through a really tough point in our marriage and were an answer to my prayer.”
M & M
Intimacy has grown Exponentially
“Honestly, between marriage counseling up until about August, and our wonderful experience with the retreat, our marriage and the level of intimacy between us (of all kinds) has grown exponentially. Thanks so much for being a wonderful part of that process Dan.”
C & E
“We have hope & fulfillment again!”
Joy and Jeremy got along really well in all areas of their 12 years of marriage except when it came to sex, their differences in preferences and desire caused frustration. Then they started the Next Level System and they have more hope and fulfillment in their marriage than ever.
What I Can Control
We're a Real Team Now
“We’re blown away by how much we’ve grown in this area of our relationship. It feels like we’re a real team now, are both committed to working at ourselves, and to having a great sexual relationship, for ourselves, for each other, and for us together, and it’s exciting to be on this journey together. Ware having lots of fun with our sex life. The holiday sex was amazing – we’re doing some more adventurous things in bed and finding pleasure in more ways. During our time apart we’re having lots of fun texting and sharing fantasies, and appreciating the anticipation that this separation brings.”
D & J
“I’ve been in therapy for a decade, but this actually works”
Troy had been in therapy for a decade, but finally found hope and answers in a few weeks of coaching.
Changing Lives
“I’ll start by thanking you for the [Get Your Marriage On!] coaching program. It was amazing, well worth the investment, and is still paying off for me! You’re changing lives 🙂 “
A & R
Praying For Some Answers
A Better Husband, Father & Leader
“The course has taught me a lot and I appreciate all your time and effort you have put into the course. It has been great to get to know you and truly grateful for the investment you have had in my life these past 12 weeks. I have received your input and put it into practice in my life. I appreciate your honesty and constructive criticism. I look forward to continuing to grow this year and becoming a better husband, father and leader. Thanks for everything.”
C & A
New Life into our Relationship
“We had a great follow up discussion after our session today. Over the last month she has been open to [the things you coached us on]. I have seen such an amazing transition to openness and comfort with communication over the last few months that she is blowing me away (pun intended this time 🙂 I never would have imagined things could change this quickly! Thank you so much for your coaching and mentorship, it has breathed new life into our relationship on so many levels.”
M & T
“We were really struggling. Now we have the tools we need.”
Sera and Darrin had struggles in their marriage, like most of us do from time to time. They were sick of staying stuck in their patterns. Learn how coaching improved their marriage.
Like Newly Weds
“I can’t thank you enough for you work and what it has don’t for our marriage. We still get asked now and then if we are newly weds and our oldest graduates this year from high school. 22 year and still going strong. Thanks for the new energy you have given us.”
D & J
Curiosity and Self Exploration
“Your retreat really set us off on a wonderful journey of curiosity and self exploration. Thank you for helping me get rid of so much shame I had around my sexuality and to finally accept myself as a healthy loving Human that God created. It was truly a blessing and I have recommended this work shop to many of my friends along with your podcast. I pray that God continues to bless your ministry and those involved.”
B & A
We Seemed to be Stuck
“It can be a very difficult step reaching out to someone about something so personal. I have struggled for a long time in marriage with our sex life and I wasn’t sure what to do or who to reach out to. We seem to be stuck on the same issues and conflicts. Then I came across Dan on the Get Your Marriage On app. Actually, it was mostly my husband who was listening to him and out of curiosity, I decided to listen in on some of the podcasts too. I could relate so much to what was being talked about! It was such a relief to know that I was not alone in how I was feeling and what I was experiencing in my married sex relationship. Then I heard he coaches couples as well. To hear Dan’s heart and experiences, to feel the passion he has for helping couples during the podcasts made me wonder… could he possibly help my marriage too? I knew if there was anyone to reach out to and try, it was Dan. We nervously scheduled our first session and it has been going so great ever since! He listens so well and offers such great insight and suggestions into what we can do. I started in such a defeated, hopeless state…and things have suddenly become hopeful again! It has been so good meeting together and having that neutral person help us to sort through things as a couple. He makes it so convenient, we schedule and meet regularly together online due to being in Canada. If you’re willing to put in the work together and push into those difficult places within yourself, it’s worth it for your marriage! You will not be disappointed and we both highly recommend Dan to anyone!“
J & A
“From good to great”
Keith and Lindsey have a good marriage and friendship. They joined the program and quickly found value in turning a good thing into a great thing for their marriage.
A Safe Place To Talk About Sex
“Sex had become a point of contention in our marriage. We enjoyed Dan Purcell’s podcast and how he explains things and makes sexual things easier to talk about. We knew we needed help and so it made sense to ask Dan. It was soooo helpful to have an experienced “middleman” to help us see things in our marriage we had a hard time recognizing for ourselves. Dan has such great advice for how to improve the relationship and sex in a marriage. I am so glad we got the coaching and I recommend it to everyone especially those with frustration around sex in their marriage. Your marriage and your sex-life is worth the investment. If you are on the fence, get the coaching.“
B & K
Breaking Down Old Beliefs
“I don’t think it was anything specific she actually said to us, but somehow the coaching sessions just absolutely worked. After years of slow progress in our sexual relationship suddenly we started having some absolutely “next level” sex, some of the best we’ve ever had! So the coaching helped us break down what was working and provided suggestions to hopefully keep it going. Overall we were very pleasantly surprised with the coaching program!“
W & A
Truely Passionate
“I can honestly say for [the previous year] we had lots of sex but not once made passionate love. Things are changing and even this past weekend alone we made truly passionate stage 3 (as you called it on one of your talks) love five times. I can’t wait for an amazing next year!”
K & J
Love What You Stand For
“What resonated with me the most was the idea of a step-by-step focused program. My biggest complaint of [Other Coach’s] courses I’ve taken in the past are that they tend to be too theoretical and not enough “tell me what exactly I need to do this week to fix things.” So the idea of a course focused on digestible chunks that lay out specific improvement goals along with coaches to create accountability for reaching those goals and help applying them to real life sounds very appealing to me.”
T & M
Non-Threatening & Respectful
“I convinced my wife to watch your youtube on eroticism. She saw first hand how non-threatening you are and your respectful treatment of very personal and private subjects, i.e., all things sex. I actually think my wife is going to participate in the live lovemaking retreat. I am blown away! This is a huge step for her. Thank you so much Dan.”
M & S
Brought Us Closer
“My wife and I joined the intimately us app about a month ago and it has changed our lives and really appreciate what you and your team do. It definitely has brought us closer together. We really appreciate that this a Christian based app. So thank you again.”
M & C
My Black Belt Sex Tip: Get This Program
“My wife and I have been married for 15 years. We are happily married, but recognized that we had some challenges within our sexual relationship that led to anxiety, disappointment, resentment and hurt feelings.
We recognized that we needed some help from a third-party to help us overcome these seemingly monstrous hurdles, but had some apprehensions. We were worried about being open and vulnerable about something so private. However, we decided to invest in our marriage and reached out to Dan Purcell.
Working with Dan was amazing. Dan was so friendly and created a safe environment for sharing. He was a great listener and had great advice. He helped us to develop techniques for better communication and engaging in healthy conflict. He helped us develop a mindset that encouraged us to focus on our progress and celebrated our successes with us. He taught us how to invest in our relationship more earnestly, a gift we will cherish forever.
For those looking to have a better, more intimate, marriage, my Black Belt Sex Tip is to work with a coach — work with Dan Purcell! It is an investment that will last a lifetime!
Thank you, Dan, for helping us to take our marriage to the Next Level!”
K & B
The Staff is Vulnerable, Safe & Excited to Help
“The marriage and intimacy retreat was a life-changing experience for us. After 20 years of marriage, we wanted to take our marriage from good to great. During the weekend, we gained so many incredible insights on how we were trying to fix each other rather than ourselves, making assumptions and putting expectations on each other that were false due to lack of honest communication that had been shaped over the past decades of routine. We gained so many tools for improving connection and communication, but also changing our own attitudes about ourselves and our intimate life. Most important were the friendships and community that we gained from this bonding and growing time together. To know that every couple in the room was there to learn and grow was such a comfort and we learned so much from each other as well as the speakers. To have a relaxing and pampered weekend to focus on our most important relationships created an environment of uninterrupted growth, reflection and exploration that can be hard to come by. The staff is vulnerable, safe and excited to help each and every couple. We walked out of the retreat with a literal book of tools (and lots of other goodies!) to implement at home and friendships that will last a long time. What an incredible kick start to the next phase of our marriage and we can’t wait to get started!”
M & F
Learned About Myself
“The men’s group coaching was amazing. I learned a lot about myself and how to have a more intimate (close) marriage. “
T & B
Get This App!!
“We love this app!! We are so much more connected, and not just in the bedroom. The owners only and sole purpose is to better your relationship, and it shows. Offering a lot of different dates, games, conversation starters, even occasionally having free webinars on how to create intimacy and fun in your sex life! If you’re looking for something new in your relationship. Get this app!!!”
She Was Going Crazy!
“I tried “thrust in time” with my wife (I didn’t tell her what I was doing). By the time I got 3 short and 7 long, she was going crazy! It was an awesome thing to see. Finally after 1 short and 9 long, she was begging me to finish her off with hard and fast. She exploded! She is one of the fortunate few that can orgasm through penetration only. I am so grateful for the privilege of being able to have that together.”
S & M
Let Go & Enjoy
“Thanks again for the good work that you are doing! I really appreciate you, your Apps and your podcasts…for example I shared with my wife the other day your article about female ejaculation…it was really helpful because she had always thought she was peeing, and that it disgusted her, so it has made a difference in her feeling like she can let go and enjoy that when it is essentially comparable to male ejaculation.”
S & W
So Much Fun!
“I wanted to let you know that I’ve greatly benefited from your podcast and the Intimately Us app! We are having so much fun! After being married almost 27 years and are mid 40’s, empty nesters … .things could become a tad boring. I’ve truly enjoyed getting to know my husband in a new way. I love how you don’t make me feel weird for wanting to desire a HEALTHY sex life with my husband and that my desires aren’t bad or wrong! Thank you! I have also learned this from your episodes so I appreciate your mission for us to have the most intimate life with our spouse. I hope to be able to relay a sex positive message to my adult kids for when they get married! Something I had to learn on my own. Thanks again.”
M & K
Wedding Anniversary
“Jeanie and I did the virtual retreat this past weekend and celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary early. It was a amazing time of connection and pleasure together. I have learned a lot from you and the course. I believe we are going in the right direction and our relationship is growing deeper and more passionate. Just wanted to say thanks. Hope u have a great week.”
C & J
Huge Impact
“2 years ago I took Dans men’s course and it had a huge impact on me. I think by me showing up differently it allowed my wife showed up differently. I don’t get angry and show the neediness any more when sex doesn’t happen. I also cherish her more and ravish her with praise love and daily text messages of my appreciation belief and love for her. Our sex life has skyrocketed beyond my imagination. We have all the good stuff now 2-3 times a week and it has done wonders for our marriage.”
J & K
“We can actually talk about it now”
Learn how Sarah and Brady’s old pattern of people pleasing was driving them apart, and how the program helped them learn new skills for stronger intimacy and honest communication in their relationship.
Keep Growing & Experimenting
“Things have been going really well with me. We keep growing and experimenting with things that we would have never done in the past. I remember having concerns about “when the other shoe was going to drop”. That has not been the case at all. We have got stuck a few times but we communicate through our disagreement and figure out what will work for the both of us. It has been really fun and encouraging.”
C & R
Best is Yet to Come!
“My cohort wrapped up tonight and I’m just so excited about what I’ve learned and how I’ve already grown. The content and the delivery have been phenomenal so far. I’m so grateful to be in this Next Level – Get Your Marriage On Course. Thank you, thank you, thank you. No doubt, we have more work to do; the best is yet to come!”
K & D
Best is Yet to Come!
“My cohort wrapped up tonight and I’m just so excited about what I’ve learned and how I’ve already grown. The content and the delivery have been phenomenal so far. I’m so grateful to be in this Next Level – Get Your Marriage On Course. Thank you, thank you, thank you. No doubt, we have more work to do; the best is yet to come!”
K & D
Relevent & Extremely Useful
“The men’s group was a good experience for me. Amy was a great coach and facilitator. The content was very relevant and extremely useful. I feel like you’ve provided a masters course distilled down into an easy to digest workbook and video clips. It’s A LOT to take in though! I found it worked best for me to focus on one or two things that jumped out at me as most on point for what I was experiencing rather than trying to go deep on each point.”
M & P
Cherish Each Other
“My wife and I had a great experience working through the men’s and women’s cohorts. As Tammy (our coach) can attest, we have made huge improvements in our marriage and have increased our intimacy greatly. We’ve both come to know and cherish each other more and have more connection with each other. My biggest ah-hah was probably just realizing what I was missing most with my wife wasn’t just more sex but deeper connection in sex and more connection and intimacy outside of sex.”
M & C
Fewer Regrettable Situations
“I remember joining that coaching class because I had been caught in a very bad situation. It has been a growing journey for me and for us since then. I am not yet fully there but the gains are enormous. Our communication keeps improving and our marriage and family has many moments worth remembering and fewer regrettable situations. I appreciate the time I journeyed with you.”
J & R
Ah-hah Moments
“The experience has been great. The program is comprehensive and has depth. I resonate with what is being taught. I am impressed with the quality of your coaches, Tammy and Amy. They seem to have a great understanding of what they are teaching and do so in a patient and empathetic manner.
My ah-hah moments are that I need to work on being attractive (calming down and being less anxious etc..) and females tend to need to work on their eroticism. This makes so much sense and is tied to what naturally happens in relationships with spontaneous/responsive desire couples that haven’t had coaching.
Additionally, the idea that eros is needed for a bonded/tight marriage is so refreshing and encouraging. This was a lightbulb moment for sure, along with the idea that sex/sexuality is the catalyst for a great marriage and relationship development with your spouse. (tied together with spirituality and God’s design for marriage!)”
J & D
Grown Tremendously
“As I reflect over the past 12 weeks, I’ve grown tremendously – specifically, the ability to even talk about sexuality with my wife. I’m learning to take full responsibility for myself (and she for herself). I’ve learned how to build emotional intimacy by having difficult conversations. We’ve had better quality sex – including allowing space for a “no” because I know how important freedom is. We’re seeing how Eros energy gives power to every other area of life too.”
N & B
Nothing Short of a Miracle
“As this 12-week men’s cohort wraps up, I want to express just how transformative this experience has been for me. I’ve participated in countless programs over the years. Things like diets, workout routines, prayer groups, and various Christian-based resources, but nothing has come close to the impact of this course. After 22 years of marriage, with issues stretching back to our dating days and a history of unresolved pain, I had grown increasingly hopeless that a solution existed. Most other programs left me feeling more discouraged, and some even made things worse. But I kept searching, believing God wanted something better for me and my marriage.
This program has been nothing short of a miracle. The safe, faith-based, and deeply practical environment you’ve created allowed me to finally see what I’d been missing. The group setting provided camaraderie and accountability, and the curriculum addressed the real issues that have kept me stuck for so long.”
D & C
Open Environment
“Since the retreat, I feel we continue to progress together. We are rereading the retreat workbook and notes we made as well. I would say we are becoming better empty nesters. Certainly the comfort level of talking about intimate topics has increased since the retreat. It was such an open environment with the other couples who were eager to talk and help. All with similar stories. We are not the only ones with our challenges was brought home again and again.”
A & P
Great Group of People
“It’s hard to believe it’s been a month already! That weekend was one of the best weekends we’ve had for a long time. I honestly wasn’t sure how comfortable I would feel in that situation but you and your team did a fantastic job of making it easy to relax and settle in. It was easy to be open to what was being shared by your team and the other attendees. We truly were part of a great group of people. It was comforting to know we weren’t alone in our situation. Everyone’s story was different yet similar. I really had some ah ha moments. Those realizations helped me to let go of so much hurt and resentment (I didn’t even know I was holding on to it). In the last month we have continued to have even deeper conversations. We are being much more honest with each other. We have been able to deepen our intimacy more and more each week. We are still a work in progress but I feel so much hope for our future.”
S & G
Frequently Asked Questions
I'm a private this person. This is scary to me.
We’ve got you. We want you to feel comfortable in our program. You can stay as anonymous as you like if needed. Our team of trained sex & intimacy coaches are well aware this is often a difficult and sensitive area of your life and approach this topic with compassion and understanding.
I feel like I could go the rest of my life without sex.
You might wonder if you’re asexual or some other label you’ve gievn yourself to explain why you have low libido. We can assure you that you’re not broken. We can dig in deeper to help you better understand what’s going on. Most of the time, it’s a blend of many factors, primarily the intimate relationship with your spouse, that is affecting you. Let us work with you to show you a better way!
I feel pressure to increase my libido to catch up to my spouse's level. Will this program add to that pressure?
Many traditional American sex therapists treat low libido by pressuring you to orgasm more frequently, watch porn, read erotica, or masturbate and fantasize. This approach may work for some in the short term, but doesn’t work in the long term because it doesn’t address the core issue (intimacy in the relationship).
We take a no-pressure approach to addressing intimacy (emotional, spiritual, sexual) in your marriage. You can go at your own pace.
My spouse doesn't seem interested in addressing this issue in our marriage.
We’ve been there before ourselves. It’s natural for one person in the marriage to be more motivated to address sexual concerns than the other. Our program is designed so that just one of you can get a head start, and the other can join when they’re ready.
We also believe it takes only one of you in the marriage to start the chain-reaction of positive change in your marriage.
What if this program doesn't work?
No other program offers the quality of coaching, as comprehensive of a course, or as dedicated of a community as the Next Level Program. Hundreds of couples are getting results in our program.
I feel ashamed for wanting (or not wanting) sex.
We talk about sex in a way you’ve probably never heard before: the spiritual side of of sexual development. We also discuss how sex is about connection & pleasure, rooted in an intimate relationship. This is a shame-free, sex-positive approach to addressing sexual concerns in a long-term marriage.
This is a big investment for us.
It’s true that nothing in life can bring you as much pain and stress as intimate relationships. On the flipside, there’s nothing else in life that compares to the joy, freedom, and thrill of happy intimate relationships! Investing in your marriage will yield more joy than your next job promotion.
How long does it take before we will see results?
Most couples begin to see results within 4 – 6 weeks and fully realize changes within 90 days of following our process and program. By taking action with the simple step-by-step program, they learn to recognize old patterns that interfere with their goals and begin to establish better patterns that promote more honesty and openness in the marriage.
Couples that succeed are committed to a better relationship. They watch the modules, complete the fun & sexy at home assignments associated with the modules, following along in the program guide we mail you, and participating in coaching sessions regularly.
I want to better understand who you are before I sign up. What do you believe in, what do you stand for?
One of the best ways to get to know us is by checking out these free resources:
Get Your Marriage On Podcast by Dan Purcell discusses matters relating to building an intimate and sexy marriage with Christian values.
Our YouTube channel has many useful videos on the topics of sex, intimacy, and marriage.
Check out our Instagram account with quotes, reels, and other discussions about sex and marriage.
Our Facebook page also is an active place to learn about Get Your Marriage On and the material we teach.
We’ve written hundreds of articles on this website’s blog about sex, marriage, intimacy, and many other related topics.
Who are my coaches when we sign up?
Unlike signing up for a course for you to consume (and forget about), our program is all about action and helping you apply principles anyone can master to build a stronger, more intimate marriage. We will guide you through this process.
The team consists of Dan & Emily Purcell, founders of Get Your Marriage On!; Amy & Greg Langford, certified life coaches, and Tammy Camp, certified marriage & intimacy coach.
In addition, you have access to professionals such as mental health therapists, pelvic floor physical therapists, and other specialists through our network when you join the program.
Why do you say this is a program for Christian couples?
Besides that the founders of Get Your Marriage On are Christians, there are common obstacles that Christian couples face. We help you overcome all of these obstacles in our program:
- Many Christians come from a home where sex wasn’t discussed often, or at least not in a positive light
- Christians believe in monogamy. When sexual problems arise in a relationship, going outside of your marriage to get needs met is not a desirable option.
- We affirm God’s purpose for sex in the context of marriage
Couples of all faiths and backgrounds are invited to participate. Others describe the program as not “preachy” but faith-affirming.
What bonuses do I get when I sign up?
This program is for couples and individuals that want to up-level their marriage via our proven step-by-step method and access via the Next Level system.
- We will mail you a welcome package with two copies of the guide (one for you, one for your spouse).
- You also gain access to workshops and other bonus content.
- Additional bonuses will be shared with you from time to time.
What is coaching like?
Coaching is getting real-time guidance and help in any aspect of your relationship. The goal of coaching is to help you sharpen your thinking and give you tools to help you make better life decisions.
Through our Next Level system, we offer four types of coaching meetings. You’re welcome to just attend and observe our group coaching meetings (don’t need to come on camera or mic if you’re not ready for it):
- Open Group Coaching, where all Next Levelers (members) are invited to attend.
- Men’s Only and Women’s Only meetings
- Courageous Couples, anonymized private coaching where the couple’s identifying details are changed. These audio-only sessions are shared with other Next Level members via the private podcast.
- Private coaching, for individuals and couples that want a private 1:1 or 2:1 experience (additional fee applies, subject to availability).
What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?
There’s a lot of overlap between marriage coaching and marriage therapy. Our professional coaches receive much of the same training as therapists. Our coaches use the same research-based theories and models as therapists do in our practice. Our professional coaches invest in the latest training available to help our couples thrive in our program.
Like therapists, our professional coaches are invested in your success as a couple and partner with you to help you achieve your goals.
Our professional coaches do not treat mental health concerns such as depression or severe emotional trauma. When appropriate, we will refer you to a specialist to treat those concerns.
Because coaches are not subject to restrictive state licensing requirements, our clients enjoy more flexibility. For example, our professional coaches can work with couples across state lines without license limitations. This also saves us dozens of hours of busywork each week from writing documentation for insurance billing purposes.
Traditionally, therapy focuses on healing what’s broken where coaching is focused on helping you win. Coaching emphasizes actions you can take to see the results you’re seeking. Coaches can be more personal by sharing their own experience through similar challenges.
What times of day or week do you offer coaching?
We vary our times of the week for coaching to make it easy for you to find a time that works for you. We have some meetings during the day and others at night. After you join, you can view the monthly calendar and sign up for all of the sessions you want to join.
What are the modules and what will I learn in the Next Level Program?
When you sign up, you will receive full access to the course that teaches you the step-by-step program for building an intimate marriage. Here are the ten modules in the course:
#1 – Taking 100% Responsibility and the Spiritual Work of Sexual Development
(Watch a sample of the first module here.)
#2 – Three Stage Framework
#3 – The Challenges of Modern Sexual Relationships
#4 – Awareness and Accountability
#5 – Balanced Belonging
#6 – Courageous Choosing
#7 – Developing Desire
#8 – Anatomy of Arousal
#9 – Embracing Eroticism
#10 – Living Orgasmically
Each module contains reflection questions to help you apply what you learn. In addition to the ten modules, the program includes bonus material on a variety of topics related to sex and intimacy in marriage.
My spouse isn’t interested (yet). Should I wait to do it together or start by myself?
It’s common for one spouse to be more interested in improving the marriage relationship than the other. We believe intimate marriages are a system: when one spouse begins to change, it immediately affects the other spouse.
The program is designed so that you can start the program yourself and immediately begin applying the principles and receive the coaching you need to start seeing results. Your spouse can join when he or she is ready.
I want a stronger marriage. Why so much emphasis on sex?
Great question! We believe the way you interact sexually is an accurate map or microcosm of how you interact intimately, and visa versa. We also believe that of all of the aspects of a marriage, the sexual aspect is one of the most challenging part to get right. Once you gain the skills to improve the sexual relationship, those skills transfer to the rest of the relationship.
Great sexual relationships require trust, honesty, generosity, benevolence, kindness, acceptance, good communication, and mutual self-disclosure.
In addition, the physical aspects of sex are incredibly healing and bonding to a marriage. The work required to develop as a couple sexually parallel the work needed to grow spiritually as well.
Can I join any time or do I need to wait until a spot opens up?
Yes, you can join at any time. We’re currently open for enrollment. The small group coaching programs (men’s and women’s cohorts) do have specific start and end dates, however.
Will I learn how to do X, Y, or Z (sexual technique) in this program?
This program doesn’t emphasize particular techniques, such as how to perform oral sex better or step-by-step techniques for women to learn how to have multiple orgasms. Although mastering good techniques is an important part of being a good lover in bed, this program instead focuses on building a good foundation for intimacy and exploration.
We offer bonus material on how to master certain sexual techniques to complement the core program.
Will this help me overcome _____ (premature ejaculation, difficulty with orgasm, differences in sexual desire, unwanted pornography use, etc.)?
Yes, maybe! Many difficulties with sexual dysfunction, sexual frustration, or sexual habits have their root in the way people respond to interpersonal challenges. Our coaches are trained to help you in all of these areas. We also have bonus material for specific concerns.
How do I sign up?
Click on this link to begin with a 5 minute quiz to help us match your needs and place you in the best community cohorts. After that we’ll schedule a quick consultation call. You’ll then be enrolled in your Men’s & Women’s Coaching Cohort, be emailed access to your Online Courses, and schedule your first Private Coaching Session.
*Disclaimer: Results will vary on individual efforts and external factors. Individual successes are not guaranteed and are influenced by abilities and other external factors. This program, including any hypothetical scenarios described, is provided for informational and illustrative purposes only and does not constitute professional advice.
Although our coaches have the same training as Marriage and Family Therapists, we do not practice therapy. We do not diagnose or treat mental illness or deep emotional issues. Coaching places significantly more personal responsibility on the client, and a certain minimum level of functioning is required to be a good fit for coaching. We assume no responsibility for decisions made or actions taken based on the content on this website. Always consult with qualified professionals before making significant relationship or mental health decisions.