About
Dan Purcell
I'm Dan. I'm an Intimacy coach and the founder of Get Your Marriage On!
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At Get Your Marriage On we believe that...
My amazing wife
Have you ever had one conversation change your life?
That’s the start of my story.
Years ago, a friend opened up to me about his sex life. He was telling me about how he and his wife started to put more effort into their sexual relationship and they’ve never been happier. I was blushing the whole time.
He wasn’t telling me this to brag or boast. He was sincere when he told me that he and his wife have never felt closer since working on their sexual relationship. He said that it seemed like everything else in their life went better because their sex life improved.
This is when I realized that there was something important I was missing from my life and my marriage.
Our Journey
My wife and I both came from wonderful, loving families, but when it came to sex and intimacy, there was little conversation beyond reproductive biology. So we made an effort to start having open, honest, and vulnerable conversations with each other about what kind of intimate marriage we wanted to create. This lead to new discoveries and growth for both of us.
One conversation lead to other conversations! We experienced a transformation that led us to better love one another.
We realized for ourselves how important a great sex life can be and how much God wanted us to enjoy deeper pleasure and connection.
And So. Much. FUN! But it’s wasn’t just about sex. Our improving intimacy was a foundation to a strong marriage.
Seeing Change
We read a dozen marriage and intimacy books together over the next year. We found really helpful blogs and binge-listened to wonderful podcasts. In a short time we saw huge results in our own marriage!
All of the sudden Emily and I were connecting in a deeper and more profound way than we ever had. There was more ease and excitement between us.
We were flirting with each other more than ever. Our children could tell that we cherished and adored each other. Our communication improved, my work improved, and all of a sudden the grass was growing greener and the sky was bluer… Everything in life was so much better because our relationship had improved dramatically.
My Mission
We started Get Your Marriage On! as a way to document and share what we are learning along our own journey. As our efforts have grown, we’ve seen thousands of couples impacted and finding joy in marriage. I’m extremely honored that I get to share the information that has meant so much to me.
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. I hope you learn something meaningful to your marriage.
With care,
Dan
I wouldn't be here without my incredible wife, Emily.
She has been by my side through every challenge and every success, reminding me daily of the power of a strong, connected marriage. The lessons I’ve learned in our own relationship inspire everything I do with Get Your Marriage On! because I’ve experienced firsthand how a supportive partnership brings out the best in each of us. She is my inspiration in helping couples everywhere build that same kind of joy and strength in their marriages.
What We do at Get Your Marriage On!
Through Get Your Marriage On!, I get to share my passion for helping couples strengthen their connection in fun and meaningful ways. From the creation of our apps and hosting the podcast, to leading the writing articles, coaching, hosting marriage retreats, and more. I’m committed to offering tools and experiences that make intimacy and marriage more vibrant. I founded Get Your Marriage On! because I believe marriage should be joyful, passionate, and alive, and it’s a privilege to see couples grow closer through the resources we provide.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What do I do when my spouse doesn't seem interested in addressing this issue in our marriage?
We’ve been there before ourselves. It’s natural for one person in the marriage to be more motivated to address sexual concerns than the other. Our program is designed so that just one of you can get a head start, and the other can join when they’re ready.
We also believe it takes only one of you in the marriage to start the chain-reaction of positive change in your marriage.
I feel pressure to increase my libido to catch up to my spouse's level. Will coaching add to that pressure?
Many traditional American sex therapists treat low libido by pressuring you to orgasm more frequently, watch porn, read erotica, or masturbate and fantasize. This approach may work for some in the short term, but doesn’t work in the long term because it doesn’t address the core issue (intimacy in the relationship).
I take a no-pressure approach to addressing intimacy (emotional, spiritual, sexual) in your marriage. You can go at your own pace.
How do I get help when I feel ashamed for wanting (or not wanting) sex?
We talk about sex in a way you’ve probably never heard before: the spiritual side of of sexual development. We also discuss how sex is about connection & pleasure, rooted in an intimate relationship. This is a shame-free, sex-positive approach to addressing sexual concerns in a long-term marriage.
This is a big investment for us, how can we know it will be worth it?
It’s true that nothing in life can bring you as much pain and stress as intimate relationships. On the flipside, there’s nothing else in life that compares to the joy, freedom, and thrill of happy intimate relationships! Investing in your marriage will yield more joy than your next job promotion.
How long does it take before we will see results?
Most couples begin to see results within 4 – 6 weeks and fully realize changes within 90 days of following our process and program. By taking action, they learn to recognize old patterns that interfere with their goals and begin to establish better patterns that promote more honesty and openness in the marriage.
Couples that succeed are committed to a better relationship.
I want to better understand who you are before I sign up. What do you believe in, what do you stand for?
One of the best ways to get to know us is by checking out these free resources:
Get Your Marriage On Podcast by Dan Purcell discusses matters relating to building an intimate and sexy marriage with Christian values.
Our YouTube channel has many useful videos on the topics of sex, intimacy, and marriage.
Check out our Instagram account with quotes, reels, and other discussions about sex and marriage.
Our Facebook page also is an active place to learn about Get Your Marriage On and the material we teach.
We’ve written hundreds of articles on this website’s blog about sex, marriage, intimacy, and many other related topics.
What is coaching like?
Coaching is getting real-time guidance and help in any aspect of your relationship. The goal of coaching is to help you sharpen your thinking and give you tools to help you make better life decisions.
Coaching and therapy overlap, but coaching is action-forward: goals, tools, practice, and momentum. Coaching isn’t designed to treat clinical mental-health conditions (like severe trauma or depression). If that’s part of what’s going on, I would encourage the right therapeutic support alongside your growth work.
What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?
There’s a lot of overlap between marriage coaching and marriage therapy. Professional coaches receive much of the same training as therapists. I use the same research-based theories and models as therapists do in practice. I also invest in the latest training available to help my couples thrive.
Like therapists, professional coaches are invested in your success as a couple and partner with you to help you achieve your goals.
Coaches do not treat mental health concerns such as depression or severe emotional trauma. When appropriate, I will refer you to a specialist to treat those concerns.
Because coaches are not subject to restrictive state licensing requirements, our clients enjoy more flexibility. For example, I can work with couples across state lines without license limitations. This also saves us dozens of hours of filing each week for insurance billing purposes.
Traditionally, therapy focuses on healing what’s broken where coaching is focused on helping you win. Coaching emphasizes actions you can take to see the results you’re seeking. Coaches can be more personal by sharing their own experience through similar challenges.
I feel like I could go the rest of my life without sex. What do I do?
You might wonder if you’re asexual or some other label you’ve given yourself to explain why you have low libido. I can assure you that you’re not broken. We can dig in deeper to help you better understand what’s going on. Most of the time, it’s a blend of many factors, primarily the intimate relationship with your spouse, that is affecting you. Let us work together to show you a better way!
My spouse isn’t interested (yet). Should I wait to do it together or start by myself?
It’s common for one spouse to be more interested in improving the marriage relationship than the other. We believe intimate marriages are a system: when one spouse begins to change, it immediately affects the other spouse.
You can start by yourself and immediately begin applying the principles and receive the coaching you need to start seeing results. Your spouse can join when he or she is ready.
I want a stronger marriage. Why so much emphasis on sex?
Great question! I believe the way you interact sexually is an accurate map or microcosm of how you interact intimately, and visa versa. I also believe that of all of the aspects of a marriage, the sexual aspect is one of the most challenging part to get right. Once you gain the skills to improve the sexual relationship, those skills transfer to the rest of the relationship.
Great sexual relationships require trust, honesty, generosity, benevolence, kindness, acceptance, good communication, and mutual self-disclosure.
In addition, the physical aspects of sex are incredibly healing and bonding to a marriage. The work required to develop as a couple sexually parallel the work needed to grow spiritually as well.
Will I learn how to do X, Y, or Z (sexual technique) in this program?
My coaching doesn’t emphasize particular techniques, such as how to perform oral sex better or step-by-step techniques for women to learn how to have multiple orgasms. Although mastering good techniques is an important part of being a good lover in bed, I instead focuses on building a good foundation for intimacy and exploration.
I offer bonus material on the Get Your Marriage On! site regarding how to master certain sexual techniques.
Will this help me overcome _____ (premature ejaculation, difficulty with orgasm, differences in sexual desire, unwanted pornography use, etc.)?
Yes, maybe! Many difficulties with sexual dysfunction, sexual frustration, or sexual habits have their root in the way people respond to interpersonal challenges. I’m trained to help you in all of these areas and I also have bonus material for specific concerns.
*Disclaimer: Results will vary on individual efforts and external factors. Individual successes are not guaranteed and are influenced by abilities and other external factors. Coaching, including any hypothetical scenarios described, is provided for informational and illustrative purposes only and does not constitute certified advice.
Although our coaches have the same training as Marriage and Family Therapists, we do not practice therapy. We do not diagnose or treat mental illness or deep emotional issues. Coaching places significantly more personal responsibility on the client, and a certain minimum level of functioning is required to be a good fit for coaching. We assume no responsibility for decisions made or actions taken based on the content on this website. Always consult with qualified professionals before making significant relationship or mental health decisions.