You've tried being more patient, more helpful, more romantic.
Nothing changed.
There's a reason — and it isn't your effort.
20 minutes. No pressure. We'll tell you honestly if this isn't a fit.
A breakthrough in your marriage's intimacy in 90 days.
Even if your spouse isn't on board yet.
If any of this is you, you're in the right place.
- She hasn't initiated in years, and every time you do, you brace for it.
- You get along about everything — except this.
- You're afraid to bring it up because you don't want to make her feel bad.
- The marriage works. It just doesn't feel alive.
You can't compromise your way to a great sex life.
Every piece of advice you've been handed says the same thing: meet in the middle. Find the overlap. Want the same things.
So you've spent years shrinking the gap between you. Taking things off the table. Not asking. Keeping the peace.
And the peace got quieter, and so did the marriage.
Here's what nobody told you: your differences aren't the problem. What you've been doing about them is.
Two people who want different things don't need to negotiate a settlement. They need to become the kind of people who can
collaborate — honest about what they want, steady when the other person wants something else, and genuinely
interested in what turns their spouse on.
That isn't a technique. It's growth. And it's the whole reason this program exists.
You never encourage more sex by talking about the sex you're not having. You get there by growing into someone your
wife wants to collaborate with.
What changed in 90 days
Joy & Jeremy — married 12 years
Troy
Cathy & Ken — married 40 years
"We can actually talk about it now without it turning into a fight."
"I've been in therapy for over a decade, but this actually works."
"We both thought she was broken. She isn't."
“From good to great”
Keith & Lindsey — married 15 years
How it works
1
See the Dance
Every stuck marriage is running a pattern. We show you yours — and your half of it.
2
Change Your Steps
You can only change your own steps. Do that, and the whole dance changes. This is where you stop managing her and start becoming someone steady.
3
Sex Like You Mean It
Present, wanted, unhurried, and actually fun. The reason you came here.
What You Get
- A coach assigned to you — up to 10 private sessions, plus support between them
- Six to eight live group coaching calls every month with Dan and Tammy
- The Next Level System — 10 modules, plus the workbook and action planner mailed to your door
- A private community, including men's, women's, and 55+ groups
- The Next Level app and Digital Dan — the whole system in your pocket, 24/7
- Lifetime access to the course materials, including every future update
Plus 28 workshops, the After Dark seminars, the private podcast, premium access to Intimately Us and Just Between Us, and the Nightstand member store.
For you & your spouse!
What it costs
$4,497
Or three payments of $1,499
Most programs like this make you get on a call to find out the price. We'll just tell you.
The call isn't a sales pitch — it's to find out whether we can actually help you. If we can't, we'll say so.
Most couples find 8 to 10 private sessions is enough. The program includes up to 10; additional sessions are $200 each if you want them.
Fill out the form below to book a connection call
Do the work. Or get your money back.
Complete the first four weeks, attend two coaching calls, and do the assignments.
If nothing has shifted, we don't refund you and send you on your way. We keep working with you — at no additional cost — for up to another 90 days.
We can promise that because the couples who do the work get there. We'd rather finish the job than hand your money back.
"My wife isn't on board."
Most people who join us start alone.
A marriage is a system. When one person genuinely changes — not manipulates, not pressures, actually changes —
the other person feels it within weeks. It's not a theory. It's the most common story we hear.
You don't need her permission to grow. And she gets full access, free, whenever she's ready.
If you'd like her to understand what this is, send her this page. We wrote this next part for her.
For the spouse who didn't ask for this
Someone you love sent you this page. That was probably uncomfortable to receive, so let's start here: this is not a program about fixing you.
If you've been made to feel like the problem in this part of your marriage, we want to say plainly that we don't see it that way. Two people wanting different things isn't a malfunction. It's what happens when two whole people share a life.
Here's what we actually do. We help each person get honest about what they want, steady enough to hear what their spouse wants, and curious instead of defensive. Nobody is talked into anything. Nobody is given a quota. Nobody is asked to perform.
You will not be pressured — not by us, and not, if we're doing our job, by him. A good deal of what he'll be working on is the pressure itself: the bracing, the scorekeeping, the way a simple question starts carrying so much weight that neither of you can answer it honestly anymore.
Your pace is yours. You can read nothing, join nothing, and change nothing, and he can still do this work. If you get curious later, the door is open and it costs you nothing. Plenty of women start exactly that way.
And if you're carrying your own version of this — that you've wanted something too, or something different, and never found a way to say it — you would be far from the first. That conversation is welcome here.
Who this is for
— and who it isn't
This is a fit if:
- You're married
- You want this to get better
- You're willing to look at your own half of it first
This isn't a fit if:
- You're looking for techniques without the inner work
- You're in active crisis that needs a licensed therapist
- You want us to fix your spouse
We work alongside therapists, and we'll refer you to one — or to a pelvic floor physical therapist — when that's what you actually need.
We're a Christian team. Couples of every background are welcome, and members describe the work as faith-affirming rather than preachy.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if my spouse won't participate?
Most people start alone. A marriage is a system — when one person genuinely changes, the other feels it, usually within weeks. Your spouse gets full access, free, whenever they’re ready. Nobody gets pressured.
How is coaching different from counseling?
Our coaches train in the same research-based models therapists do. The difference is focus: therapy works on healing what’s broken, coaching works on what you do next. We don’t diagnose or treat mental health conditions — when that’s what’s needed we’ll refer you to someone who does, and we’re glad to work alongside them.
How much time does this take each week?
Plan on two to three hours: a coaching call, a module and its assignment, and time with your spouse actually practicing it. Sessions run at varied times, days and evenings, so you can find ones that fit your week.
How fast will we see results?
Most couples notice something shifting in four to six weeks and see the full change within 90 days. The couples who get there are the ones who watch the modules, do the at-home assignments, and show up for coaching.
I'm a very private person — how confidential is this?
You can stay as anonymous as you want. You never have to be on camera or on mic in a group session — observing is completely normal. Our coaches work with this every day and treat it with care.
What happens on the connection call?
Twenty minutes with our team. You tell us what’s going on, we tell you honestly whether we can help. If we’re not the right fit we’ll say so and point you somewhere better. No pitch, no pressure.
*Disclaimer: Results will vary on individual efforts and external factors. Individual successes are not guaranteed and are influenced by abilities and other external factors. This program, including any hypothetical scenarios described, is provided for informational and illustrative purposes only and does not constitute professional advice.
Although our coaches have the same training as Marriage and Family Therapists, we do not practice therapy. We do not diagnose or treat mental illness or deep emotional issues. Coaching places significantly more personal responsibility on the client, and a certain minimum level of functioning is required to be a good fit for coaching. We assume no responsibility for decisions made or actions taken based on the content on this website. Always consult with qualified professionals before making significant relationship or mental health decisions.
Meet Your Coaches
Dan Purcell
Dan is a Christian Coach that specializes in helping couples improve intimacy in their marriage. He’s also the founder of Get Your Marriage On, a podcast host with over one million downloads, and the creator of several marriage apps.
Tammy
Tammy specializes in helping women overcome “Good Girl” syndrome as well as helping men gain skills in intimacy with their wives. She has a passion for helping others learn how to really see what a healthy, intimate relationship looks like as she continues to learn and grow in her own relationship.
You've been carrying this alone long enough.
One conversation. Twenty minutes.
We’ll tell you honestly whether we can help.