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Have you ever wondered why you’re always the one initiating sex? Or perhaps you’re the spouse who feels responsible for keeping things safe, setting boundaries, or wondering whether marriage should really be this focused on sex. It’s easy to assume this difference means something is wrong with you, your spouse, or your relationship. But what if both perspectives are important? In this episode, I talk with Dr. Roy Myers, author of Playful Practice: Exploring God’s Love and Christian Sexuality. Roy interviewed long-term couples about the intersection of spirituality, sensuality, and God’s love. He found that one spouse often brings more adventure, playfulness, or new ideas to the sexual relationship, while the other brings more caution, spirituality, or safety. Those differences can create a frustrating tug-of-war. The spouse who initiates may wonder, “Why is this always my job?” while the other wonders, “Why am I always the one keeping us on the rails?” But neither spouse is necessarily the problem. Roy explains how couples can stop working against each other and begin seeing what each person’s perspective contributes to the relationship. We also talk about why many long-married couples don’t actually have a communication problem. They already know what their spouse