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Tantric Sex: What, Why, and How
Before college, I had never heard of tantric sex. It wasn’t until I took a fantastic marriage prep class with the one and only Tammy Hill that I learned there was a whole other sexual mindset that was very different from what I had seen in movies and media. This week...
Fertility and Reproductive Health
A lot of couples have questions about fertility, hormones, and genitals in general. We don’t often see other people’s genitals and some of us don’t spend any time looking at our own! Therefore there are a lot of questions about what is “normal” down there. Fertility...
Breast and Nipple Stimulation
Breasts and nipples are under-utilized erogenous zones. Although breasts are often seen as a symbol of “sexy”, we don’t tend to include them in our sexual encounters. There seems to be a lack of education on the topic and myths surrounding boobs. This article is here...
How to Have Steamy Shower Sex
Shower sex! You’ve seen it in the movies. That steamy couple who finds themselves sharing a shower and making out and ... If you’re anything like me, you were super excited to try it out! But the reality of my first shower with my husband was slippery, cold, and...
G-Spot Stimulation for Her
What is the G-Spot? Well, that’s actually a big debate. So let’s talk about what people generally mean when they say “g-spot”. The term, named after German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg, was made popular in the 1980s. It’s about 2 inches up the front wall of the...
50 Ways to Connect With Your Spouse Over the Holidays
In theory, the holiday season is all about connection. We take time off from school and work to connect with extended family and friends. Families play together, cook together, and give gifts to communicate their love. We decorate with lights and evergreens and...
Kissing: How to Bring Back the Sparks
Let me tell you a secret: my first kiss with my future husband was not a great kiss. He had asked me previously what kissing meant to me, and I responded, “I’m basically down to kiss whenever.” That evening, I walked him home (for safety ;). He leaned down as he is...
5 Spooky Spicy Bedroom Games
It’s Spooky Season!! The leaves are changing, the stores are filling with candy, and a Spirit Halloween store has appeared on every corner. With all the spooky festivities going on, why not bring a little Halloween fun to your bedroom? We at Get Your Marriage...
Anniversary Date Ideas!
We are in the throes of wedding season! According to the Knot, “80% of all weddings [took] place between May to October. To be specific, the most popular wedding months are June (13%), August (13%) and October (22%).” If it’s wedding season, that also means it’s...
Blackbelt Sex Tips 2.0
This week, we release our 100th podcast episode! It is truly amazing to see how much this podcast has grown and how much we’ve all learned together. In honor of our 100th episode, Dan reviewed every episode from this year and picked out the “gold nuggets” and black...
Anatomy & How To
Tantric Sex: What, Why, and How
Before college, I had never heard of tantric sex. It wasn’t until I took a fantastic marriage prep class with the one and only Tammy Hill that I learned there was a whole other sexual mindset that was very different from what I had seen in movies and media. This week...
Fertility and Reproductive Health
A lot of couples have questions about fertility, hormones, and genitals in general. We don’t often see other people’s genitals and some of us don’t spend any time looking at our own! Therefore there are a lot of questions about what is “normal” down there. Fertility...
Breast and Nipple Stimulation
Breasts and nipples are under-utilized erogenous zones. Although breasts are often seen as a symbol of “sexy”, we don’t tend to include them in our sexual encounters. There seems to be a lack of education on the topic and myths surrounding boobs. This article is here...
How to Have Steamy Shower Sex
Shower sex! You’ve seen it in the movies. That steamy couple who finds themselves sharing a shower and making out and ... If you’re anything like me, you were super excited to try it out! But the reality of my first shower with my husband was slippery, cold, and...
G-Spot Stimulation for Her
What is the G-Spot? Well, that’s actually a big debate. So let’s talk about what people generally mean when they say “g-spot”. The term, named after German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg, was made popular in the 1980s. It’s about 2 inches up the front wall of the...
Making Sex Fun
50 Ways to Connect With Your Spouse Over the Holidays
In theory, the holiday season is all about connection. We take time off from school and work to connect with extended family and friends. Families play together, cook together, and give gifts to communicate their love. We decorate with lights and evergreens and...
Kissing: How to Bring Back the Sparks
Let me tell you a secret: my first kiss with my future husband was not a great kiss. He had asked me previously what kissing meant to me, and I responded, “I’m basically down to kiss whenever.” That evening, I walked him home (for safety ;). He leaned down as he is...
5 Spooky Spicy Bedroom Games
It’s Spooky Season!! The leaves are changing, the stores are filling with candy, and a Spirit Halloween store has appeared on every corner. With all the spooky festivities going on, why not bring a little Halloween fun to your bedroom? We at Get Your Marriage...
Anniversary Date Ideas!
We are in the throes of wedding season! According to the Knot, “80% of all weddings [took] place between May to October. To be specific, the most popular wedding months are June (13%), August (13%) and October (22%).” If it’s wedding season, that also means it’s...
Blackbelt Sex Tips 2.0
This week, we release our 100th podcast episode! It is truly amazing to see how much this podcast has grown and how much we’ve all learned together. In honor of our 100th episode, Dan reviewed every episode from this year and picked out the “gold nuggets” and black...
Intimacy & Emotional needs
Communication
Mindfulness in Sex
Setting the Scene Readers, I have a confession to make. As I sat down to write this post, I was the farthest thing from mindful. I needed to get this post done as I’d been procrastinating all day but was struggling to focus. As I was painfully beating my brain...
Intimacy: Intention, not Intervention
This week we got to talk with Dr. Dave Schramm on the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast. Dr. Schramm is a professor of Family Life in the Human Development and Family Studies department at Utah State University. As a Marriage and Family Therapy student myself, I was so...
Uncompromising Intimacy
This week on our podcast we got to talk to Alexandra Stockwell about her upcoming book, titled Uncompromising Intimacy. Here, we are going to learn how to discover our own desires and connect to our sexual selves. Alexandra said, “Competent couples who love one...
Condensed Intimacy Course: Part 2
Welcome back! This is part two of our condensed intimacy course. Last week, we introduced a framework of stage 1, two, and 3 sex. You can find part one here. Review of the 3 Levels This 3 stages of sex framework was developed by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. As a...
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner” and how it has affected her marriage. We learned all about what it means to be an “overfunctioner” and how to...
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner” and how it has affected her marriage. We learned all about what it means to be an “overfunctioner” and how to...
Masculine Leadership: Are We Missing Something?
On our podcast this week, G. S. Youngblood talks about masculine leadership in the home. It is his opinion that masculine leadership is missing in many homes, and especially in sexual relationships. To listen to his thoughts, check out our podcast episode...
Choosing to See The Beautiful
When you look at your spouse, what do you see? Do you see the messes they make and haven’t bothered yet to clean up? Or do you see the tender way in which they take care of your children? Do you let the clothes on the floor get the best of you, or appreciate the hard...
It’s All About The Positivity, Baby!
In Seattle, there's a "Love Lab". The Love Lab is a lot like what you'd expect for a nice nightly rental condo: a stocked kitchen, comfortable room, and cozy bedroom. Except for the cameras and microphones everywhere recording your every interaction (except in...
The Micro-moments that make a Mega Difference
I’m often asked what things I’ve learned that people can do to improve the communication in their marriage. That’s like asking a chef how you can improve your home cooking. It’s hard to know how you can improve your communication without a lot of context, but I’d like...
Intimacy & Emotional needs
Mindfulness in Sex
Setting the Scene Readers, I have a confession to make. As I sat down to write this post, I was the farthest thing from mindful. I needed to get this post done as I’d been procrastinating all day but was struggling to focus. As I was painfully beating my brain...
Intimacy: Intention, not Intervention
This week we got to talk with Dr. Dave Schramm on the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast. Dr. Schramm is a professor of Family Life in the Human Development and Family Studies department at Utah State University. As a Marriage and Family Therapy student myself, I was so...
Uncompromising Intimacy
This week on our podcast we got to talk to Alexandra Stockwell about her upcoming book, titled Uncompromising Intimacy. Here, we are going to learn how to discover our own desires and connect to our sexual selves. Alexandra said, “Competent couples who love one...
Condensed Intimacy Course: Part 2
Welcome back! This is part two of our condensed intimacy course. Last week, we introduced a framework of stage 1, two, and 3 sex. You can find part one here. Review of the 3 Levels This 3 stages of sex framework was developed by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. As a...
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner” and how it has affected her marriage. We learned all about what it means to be an “overfunctioner” and how to...
Communication
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner” and how it has affected her marriage. We learned all about what it means to be an “overfunctioner” and how to...
Masculine Leadership: Are We Missing Something?
On our podcast this week, G. S. Youngblood talks about masculine leadership in the home. It is his opinion that masculine leadership is missing in many homes, and especially in sexual relationships. To listen to his thoughts, check out our podcast episode...
Choosing to See The Beautiful
When you look at your spouse, what do you see? Do you see the messes they make and haven’t bothered yet to clean up? Or do you see the tender way in which they take care of your children? Do you let the clothes on the floor get the best of you, or appreciate the hard...
It’s All About The Positivity, Baby!
In Seattle, there's a "Love Lab". The Love Lab is a lot like what you'd expect for a nice nightly rental condo: a stocked kitchen, comfortable room, and cozy bedroom. Except for the cameras and microphones everywhere recording your every interaction (except in...
The Micro-moments that make a Mega Difference
I’m often asked what things I’ve learned that people can do to improve the communication in their marriage. That’s like asking a chef how you can improve your home cooking. It’s hard to know how you can improve your communication without a lot of context, but I’d like...
Mythbusting
Questions & Answers
Male Sexual Desire: Combating the Myths
Dear readers, I want to share something personal with you. In my marriage, I am the higher desire spouse. Before marriage, I honestly didn’t know this was possible. I had learned from media that men almost always want sex and that it takes very little effort to turn...
Good Girl (And Guy) Syndrome
Most of us want to be a good girl or a good guy. We want to be good people and feel like we are doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, when this attitude is taken to the extreme it can have a negative effect on our lives. This especially applies to our sex...
Talkin’ About Hard Stuff: Pornography and BDSM
Hello again! We get a lot of questions about what is right, and what is wrong in a marriage. Although we won’t be able to decide for you what is right in your marriage (see our post What’s Okay?), we can offer insight into what can be healthy and what attitudes are...
Can a Marriage be “Lustful”?
Can a marriage be “lustful”? Do the dangers of lust end after marriage? Conversely, what is the difference between wanting sex, and being lustful? Today, we are going to tackle the tricky topic of lust in order to help our followers fully enjoy their sexual...
Body Image: Issues and Illumination
Unfortunately, body dissatisfaction is under-researched but all too prevalent in today’s society. Research is all over the place, with a range of prevalence rates from 11%-72% for women, and 8%-61% for men. This discrepancy is largely due to different definitions of...
My Favorite Marriage & Sex Books (2022)
Some of the books on our shelf A few years ago my wife and I decided we needed to learn a lot more about intimacy in marriage. We were cautious about what content we might run into with Google searches about our sex questions, so we talked with some trusted friends...
What’s Okay? Setting Sexual Boundaries
What's okay in a Christian marriage? Here at Get Your Marriage On! we get lots of questions in this same vein, such as… My husband used to watch porn and wants to use some things he learned.My wife wants to role play as other people.My spouse wants to try BDSM.Is...
Learning How to Have Great Newlywed Sex
Having sex for the first time can be incredibly intimidating, especially if you have choosen to wait for marriage. In this situation, it can feel like going 0 to 100 real fast and can make sex seem hard. I want to share a few tips to making newlywed sex great. My...
Commuter Marriages
Do you or your spouse live away from each other for part of the time? A commuter marriage is defined as a marriage where spouses live apart for reasons other than separation or divorce. Roughly 4 million American couples live apart for some or most of the time....
When Infertility Interferes with Intimacy
Do you or a loved one struggle with infertility? Struggling with infertility is something nobody expects to happen to them. It is hard to truly prepare for the grief and pain that can come along with struggling to fall pregnant and/or carry a child to term. This...
Mythbusting
Male Sexual Desire: Combating the Myths
Dear readers, I want to share something personal with you. In my marriage, I am the higher desire spouse. Before marriage, I honestly didn’t know this was possible. I had learned from media that men almost always want sex and that it takes very little effort to turn...
Good Girl (And Guy) Syndrome
Most of us want to be a good girl or a good guy. We want to be good people and feel like we are doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, when this attitude is taken to the extreme it can have a negative effect on our lives. This especially applies to our sex...
Talkin’ About Hard Stuff: Pornography and BDSM
Hello again! We get a lot of questions about what is right, and what is wrong in a marriage. Although we won’t be able to decide for you what is right in your marriage (see our post What’s Okay?), we can offer insight into what can be healthy and what attitudes are...
Can a Marriage be “Lustful”?
Can a marriage be “lustful”? Do the dangers of lust end after marriage? Conversely, what is the difference between wanting sex, and being lustful? Today, we are going to tackle the tricky topic of lust in order to help our followers fully enjoy their sexual...
Body Image: Issues and Illumination
Unfortunately, body dissatisfaction is under-researched but all too prevalent in today’s society. Research is all over the place, with a range of prevalence rates from 11%-72% for women, and 8%-61% for men. This discrepancy is largely due to different definitions of...
Questions & Answers
My Favorite Marriage & Sex Books (2022)
Some of the books on our shelf A few years ago my wife and I decided we needed to learn a lot more about intimacy in marriage. We were cautious about what content we might run into with Google searches about our sex questions, so we talked with some trusted friends...
What’s Okay? Setting Sexual Boundaries
What's okay in a Christian marriage? Here at Get Your Marriage On! we get lots of questions in this same vein, such as… My husband used to watch porn and wants to use some things he learned.My wife wants to role play as other people.My spouse wants to try BDSM.Is...
Learning How to Have Great Newlywed Sex
Having sex for the first time can be incredibly intimidating, especially if you have choosen to wait for marriage. In this situation, it can feel like going 0 to 100 real fast and can make sex seem hard. I want to share a few tips to making newlywed sex great. My...
Commuter Marriages
Do you or your spouse live away from each other for part of the time? A commuter marriage is defined as a marriage where spouses live apart for reasons other than separation or divorce. Roughly 4 million American couples live apart for some or most of the time....
When Infertility Interferes with Intimacy
Do you or a loved one struggle with infertility? Struggling with infertility is something nobody expects to happen to them. It is hard to truly prepare for the grief and pain that can come along with struggling to fall pregnant and/or carry a child to term. This...