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157: 7 Ways To Put the PLAY back in FOREPLAY and Make Sex Fun, Not Work
Today I want to talk about what to do when you want to want to have sex but you donโt feel in the mood for it yet. Although it would be nice to get in the mood, you know that itโs going to take time and energy to get there, and itโs tempting to just postpone sexy time...
How to Have Car Sex
You're sitting on the couch with your spouse, watching a classic RomCom. The protagonists on screen are in the car. It's pouring rain, or theyโre stuck in a ditch, or their car has a flat tire, or any other number of plot conveniences to keep the pair stuck in the...
Your Wonderful Clitoris!
After getting married, we all make compromises. One of my compromises was watching all of the TV show How I Met Your Mother. I remember one scene where the married couple, Lilly and Marshall, are visiting the OBGYN. Marshall is looking at a diagram on the wall and...
Female Ejaculation (Squirting) & How To Make Your Wife Squirt (2023 Edition)
God designed our bodies and they do some pretty amazing things! Squirting and gushing, otherwise known as female ejaculation, is one of them. The idea that women ejaculate may seem weird to you, it's often misunderstood, and even a little bit controversial. If you've...
Tantric Sex: What, Why, and How
Before college, I had never heard of tantric sex. It wasnโt until I took a fantastic marriage prep class with the one and only Tammy Hill that I learned there was a whole other sexual mindset that was very different from what I had seen in movies and media. This week...
Sex Equivalent Calculator
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Sheets & Ladders 2.0
We launchedย Intimately Us, a mobile app designed especially for married couples, over four years ago. This app helps couples improve intimate playtime, as well as providing a way to record precious and intimate moments of connection in the app's private intimacy...
14 Days of Sextimacy Challenge 2025
Are you ready for something new to celebrate your love this February? Do you want something that will not only bring you and your partner closer but also infuse your love life with excitement? Us too! We've created the "14 Days of Sextimacy Challenge" โ a special...
219: How Playing With Your 5 Senses Opens the Door to More Erotic Connection
I am a big believer in play in the bedroom, and I'm excited that you'll get to join me in this conversation with Adam and Karissa King today. Adam and Karissa have a fun Instagram account called Dear Young, Married Couple. And that's how I first met them a few years...
69 Sexy Interview Questions For Your Next Date Night
Ready for some fun spice? For this date night, get dressed up for an interview. Sit across from each other, and the interview starts asking questions! For added fun, get a notebook and write down your favorite answers. These questions are written from the perspective...
Anatomy & How To
157: 7 Ways To Put the PLAY back in FOREPLAY and Make Sex Fun, Not Work
Today I want to talk about what to do when you want to want to have sex but you donโt feel in the mood for it yet. Although it would be nice to get in the mood, you know that itโs going to take time and energy to get there, and itโs tempting to just postpone sexy time...
How to Have Car Sex
You're sitting on the couch with your spouse, watching a classic RomCom. The protagonists on screen are in the car. It's pouring rain, or theyโre stuck in a ditch, or their car has a flat tire, or any other number of plot conveniences to keep the pair stuck in the...
Your Wonderful Clitoris!
After getting married, we all make compromises. One of my compromises was watching all of the TV show How I Met Your Mother. I remember one scene where the married couple, Lilly and Marshall, are visiting the OBGYN. Marshall is looking at a diagram on the wall and...
Female Ejaculation (Squirting) & How To Make Your Wife Squirt (2023 Edition)
God designed our bodies and they do some pretty amazing things! Squirting and gushing, otherwise known as female ejaculation, is one of them. The idea that women ejaculate may seem weird to you, it's often misunderstood, and even a little bit controversial. If you've...
Tantric Sex: What, Why, and How
Before college, I had never heard of tantric sex. It wasnโt until I took a fantastic marriage prep class with the one and only Tammy Hill that I learned there was a whole other sexual mindset that was very different from what I had seen in movies and media. This week...
Making Sex Fun
Sex Equivalent Calculator
๐ฅ Sexy Comparison Calculator ๐ฅ Discover the wild truth about your intimate life through fun, relatable comparisons ๐ How many times do you have sex: Time period: Per Week Per Month Per Year {{ currentResult.icon }} {{ currentResult.title }} {{ currentResult.value }}...
Sheets & Ladders 2.0
We launchedย Intimately Us, a mobile app designed especially for married couples, over four years ago. This app helps couples improve intimate playtime, as well as providing a way to record precious and intimate moments of connection in the app's private intimacy...
14 Days of Sextimacy Challenge 2025
Are you ready for something new to celebrate your love this February? Do you want something that will not only bring you and your partner closer but also infuse your love life with excitement? Us too! We've created the "14 Days of Sextimacy Challenge" โ a special...
219: How Playing With Your 5 Senses Opens the Door to More Erotic Connection
I am a big believer in play in the bedroom, and I'm excited that you'll get to join me in this conversation with Adam and Karissa King today. Adam and Karissa have a fun Instagram account called Dear Young, Married Couple. And that's how I first met them a few years...
69 Sexy Interview Questions For Your Next Date Night
Ready for some fun spice? For this date night, get dressed up for an interview. Sit across from each other, and the interview starts asking questions! For added fun, get a notebook and write down your favorite answers. These questions are written from the perspective...
Intimacy & Emotional needs
Communication
217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? with Jessa Zimmerman
EmbedEdit I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit online. But the more I've done this work with myself and in my marriage and with other couples, the more I've...
159: For the Men: Embracing Your God-given Sexuality for an Intimate Marriage
Are you looking for a big shift in your relationship? The men in my coaching program continually see these shifts in amazing ways. They feel more grounded. They see themselves more clearly. They feel more confident in their own skin. They stand on their own two feet...
Your Sexual Fantasies: Once Upon a Time in a Bedroom Far, Far Away
What I Learned About Fantasies From My Trip Have you ever traveled somewhere new and fell in love with your new surroundings, while at the same time deepened your appreciation for what you do have? A few weeks ago Emily and I dropped off our oldest son in Virginia for...
Understanding Responsive Desire
Itโs a typical evening in the Severson household. My husband and I are watching TV. Suddenly, something gets me aroused. Maybe itโs a romantic line in the show, maybe itโs the feel of my husbandโs arm around me, but either way all of the sudden I want him so bad. I...
Commuter Marriages: Keeping the Spark Alive
If you prefer to listen: here is our podcast on Commuter Marriages Many couples, for a variety of reasons, have to live apart for a time. This experience is sometimes called a long distance relationship or commuter marriage. Jobs, military deployments, sick relatives...
250: 10 Steps to Have the Hard Conversations You’ve Been Avoiding in Your Marriage
Letโs face itโif you're married, disagreements are inevitable. And sometimes, those disagreements feel like gridlock. Thatโs when it seems like thereโs no win-winโonly one of you can get what you want, and the other has to give in. It can feel like itโs either his way...
217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? with Jessa Zimmerman
EmbedEdit I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit online. But the more I've done this work with myself and in my marriage and with other couples, the more I've...
Self-Sabotage in Marriage
Itโs a typical evening in my apartment. I am working until 10 pm, when my husband finally gets home. Iโve been sitting at my laptop, writing this blog, and I want to practice what Iโm preaching ;). I give my husband a big hug, but then beat around the bush. ...
The Silent Treatment: How to Break Down the Wall
The silent treatment. Picture this, youโve had an argument or disagreement and you try to talk about it with your spouse. But they turn away from you, or refuse to talk, or leave the house and you are left feeling angry and confused. Have you ever had this happen to...
Triangulation: 3’s a Crowd
Triangulation is an intimidating word. It is used in scientific research and cartography to mean the process of using triangles to measure otherwise unmeasurable distances. However, this word is also used quite frequently in the mental health field. In this context,...
Intimacy & Emotional needs
217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? with Jessa Zimmerman
EmbedEdit I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit online. But the more I've done this work with myself and in my marriage and with other couples, the more I've...
159: For the Men: Embracing Your God-given Sexuality for an Intimate Marriage
Are you looking for a big shift in your relationship? The men in my coaching program continually see these shifts in amazing ways. They feel more grounded. They see themselves more clearly. They feel more confident in their own skin. They stand on their own two feet...
Your Sexual Fantasies: Once Upon a Time in a Bedroom Far, Far Away
What I Learned About Fantasies From My Trip Have you ever traveled somewhere new and fell in love with your new surroundings, while at the same time deepened your appreciation for what you do have? A few weeks ago Emily and I dropped off our oldest son in Virginia for...
Understanding Responsive Desire
Itโs a typical evening in the Severson household. My husband and I are watching TV. Suddenly, something gets me aroused. Maybe itโs a romantic line in the show, maybe itโs the feel of my husbandโs arm around me, but either way all of the sudden I want him so bad. I...
Commuter Marriages: Keeping the Spark Alive
If you prefer to listen: here is our podcast on Commuter Marriages Many couples, for a variety of reasons, have to live apart for a time. This experience is sometimes called a long distance relationship or commuter marriage. Jobs, military deployments, sick relatives...
Communication
250: 10 Steps to Have the Hard Conversations You’ve Been Avoiding in Your Marriage
Letโs face itโif you're married, disagreements are inevitable. And sometimes, those disagreements feel like gridlock. Thatโs when it seems like thereโs no win-winโonly one of you can get what you want, and the other has to give in. It can feel like itโs either his way...
217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? with Jessa Zimmerman
EmbedEdit I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit online. But the more I've done this work with myself and in my marriage and with other couples, the more I've...
Self-Sabotage in Marriage
Itโs a typical evening in my apartment. I am working until 10 pm, when my husband finally gets home. Iโve been sitting at my laptop, writing this blog, and I want to practice what Iโm preaching ;). I give my husband a big hug, but then beat around the bush. ...
The Silent Treatment: How to Break Down the Wall
The silent treatment. Picture this, youโve had an argument or disagreement and you try to talk about it with your spouse. But they turn away from you, or refuse to talk, or leave the house and you are left feeling angry and confused. Have you ever had this happen to...
Triangulation: 3’s a Crowd
Triangulation is an intimidating word. It is used in scientific research and cartography to mean the process of using triangles to measure otherwise unmeasurable distances. However, this word is also used quite frequently in the mental health field. In this context,...
Mythbusting
Questions & Answers
Blue Balls: Myth vs. Reality
Way back in the day, I remember sitting in my boyfriend (now husband)โs apartment hearing his roommate loudly complain. He was telling a story about making out with his girlfriend when he all of the sudden got โthe worst pain of [his] lifeโ in his balls. According to...
What Makes a Wife Sexy?
What makes a wife sexy? Although it seems like a silly question to some, I can almost guarantee every wife has asked herself (or her husband) a form of this question. It may sound more like โwhy did you marry me?โ or โDo you even want me?โ, but the general sentiment...
Busting the Myth of Sexual Compatibility
I made the decision early in life that I was going to wait until I got married to have sex. This was not a popular belief in high school. Many of my friends would say things like, โbut what if he sucks in bed?โ or โwhat if heโs kinky (or not kinky enough)?โ or โwhat...
Male Sexual Desire: Combating the Myths
Dear readers, I want to share something personal with you. In my marriage, I am the higher desire spouse. Before marriage, I honestly didnโt know this was possible. I had learned from media that men almost always want sex and that it takes very little effort to turn...
Good Girl (And Guy) Syndrome
Most of us want to be a good girl or a good guy. We want to be good people and feel like we are doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, when this attitude is taken to the extreme it can have a negative effect on our lives. This especially applies to our sex...
238: 7 Candid Answers To Prepare You For A Thriving Sex Life
Perhaps you or other Christian couples you know struggled with their first experiences with sex early in their marriage, which lead to further struggles down the road. Many of these heartbreaking experiences could have been avoided or minimized if we just had a better...
198: Q&A – Erotic literature, overweight husband, discussing trying new things, and wooing your spouse
I get so many questions through the anonymous question form on my website, so it's time to answer some more. We address these topics today: A husband doesn't feel like his wife values sex and intimacy in their marriage Spouses wondering if erotic literature has a...
196: Handjobs, Pegging, Mismatched Libidos, Husband Won’t Let Me Initiate: Q&A
I'm very excited about today's episode today! We get to address a lot of juicy topics, such as the following: a reluctant wife feeling pressure to give her husband a hand job a couple that wants to try pegging, but is unsure about it a frustrated wife that feels like...
187: How Often Are Couples Actually Having Sex & Your Other Intimate Questions Answered, with Hailey Reidhead
As you know, I love answering your questions all about sex, marriage, intimacy, and more. I recently had the opportunity to answer anonymous questions from my friend Hailey Reidhead's audience. Her listeners sent in questions which I was able to answer on her podcast,...
Navigating Intimacy and Overcoming Challenges in Marriage: A Q&A Session
Welcome to our latest Q&A podcast session where we delve into your most private and urgent questions about intimacy in marriage. Through real inquiries from our listeners, we'll explore practical solutions and spiritual insights aimed at enhancing your marital...
Mythbusting
Blue Balls: Myth vs. Reality
Way back in the day, I remember sitting in my boyfriend (now husband)โs apartment hearing his roommate loudly complain. He was telling a story about making out with his girlfriend when he all of the sudden got โthe worst pain of [his] lifeโ in his balls. According to...
What Makes a Wife Sexy?
What makes a wife sexy? Although it seems like a silly question to some, I can almost guarantee every wife has asked herself (or her husband) a form of this question. It may sound more like โwhy did you marry me?โ or โDo you even want me?โ, but the general sentiment...
Busting the Myth of Sexual Compatibility
I made the decision early in life that I was going to wait until I got married to have sex. This was not a popular belief in high school. Many of my friends would say things like, โbut what if he sucks in bed?โ or โwhat if heโs kinky (or not kinky enough)?โ or โwhat...
Male Sexual Desire: Combating the Myths
Dear readers, I want to share something personal with you. In my marriage, I am the higher desire spouse. Before marriage, I honestly didnโt know this was possible. I had learned from media that men almost always want sex and that it takes very little effort to turn...
Good Girl (And Guy) Syndrome
Most of us want to be a good girl or a good guy. We want to be good people and feel like we are doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, when this attitude is taken to the extreme it can have a negative effect on our lives. This especially applies to our sex...
Questions & Answers
238: 7 Candid Answers To Prepare You For A Thriving Sex Life
Perhaps you or other Christian couples you know struggled with their first experiences with sex early in their marriage, which lead to further struggles down the road. Many of these heartbreaking experiences could have been avoided or minimized if we just had a better...
198: Q&A – Erotic literature, overweight husband, discussing trying new things, and wooing your spouse
I get so many questions through the anonymous question form on my website, so it's time to answer some more. We address these topics today: A husband doesn't feel like his wife values sex and intimacy in their marriage Spouses wondering if erotic literature has a...
196: Handjobs, Pegging, Mismatched Libidos, Husband Won’t Let Me Initiate: Q&A
I'm very excited about today's episode today! We get to address a lot of juicy topics, such as the following: a reluctant wife feeling pressure to give her husband a hand job a couple that wants to try pegging, but is unsure about it a frustrated wife that feels like...
187: How Often Are Couples Actually Having Sex & Your Other Intimate Questions Answered, with Hailey Reidhead
As you know, I love answering your questions all about sex, marriage, intimacy, and more. I recently had the opportunity to answer anonymous questions from my friend Hailey Reidhead's audience. Her listeners sent in questions which I was able to answer on her podcast,...
Navigating Intimacy and Overcoming Challenges in Marriage: A Q&A Session
Welcome to our latest Q&A podcast session where we delve into your most private and urgent questions about intimacy in marriage. Through real inquiries from our listeners, we'll explore practical solutions and spiritual insights aimed at enhancing your marital...