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How to Have Car Sex
You're sitting on the couch with your spouse, watching a classic RomCom. The protagonists on screen are in the car. It's pouring rain, or they’re stuck in a ditch, or their car has a flat tire, or any other number of plot conveniences to keep the pair stuck in the...
Your Wonderful Clitoris!
After getting married, we all make compromises. One of my compromises was watching all of the TV show How I Met Your Mother. I remember one scene where the married couple, Lilly and Marshall, are visiting the OBGYN. Marshall is looking at a diagram on the wall and...
Female Ejaculation (Squirting) & How To Make Your Wife Squirt (2023 Edition)
God designed our bodies and they do some pretty amazing things! Squirting and gushing, otherwise known as female ejaculation, is one of them. The idea that women ejaculate may seem weird to you, it's often misunderstood, and even a little bit controversial. If you've...
Tantric Sex: What, Why, and How
Before college, I had never heard of tantric sex. It wasn’t until I took a fantastic marriage prep class with the one and only Tammy Hill that I learned there was a whole other sexual mindset that was very different from what I had seen in movies and media. This week...
Fertility and Reproductive Health
A lot of couples have questions about fertility, hormones, and genitals in general. We don’t often see other people’s genitals and some of us don’t spend any time looking at our own! Therefore there are a lot of questions about what is “normal” down there. Fertility...
How to DIY Lingerie
A few months before my wedding, I realized that I would soon have a need for lingerie. I was so excited by the prospect, but also so nervous. I made sure I was alone in my apartment, then opened an incognito tab to look up where to buy lingerie. To my dismay, it was...
How to Have Car Sex
You're sitting on the couch with your spouse, watching a classic RomCom. The protagonists on screen are in the car. It's pouring rain, or they’re stuck in a ditch, or their car has a flat tire, or any other number of plot conveniences to keep the pair stuck in the...
Lingerie 101
“Why don’t you slip into something more comfortable?” I remember sitting in my marriage preparation class in college, listening to my professor talk about lingerie. I was on the edge of my seat excited to get married and to wear sexy outfits for my husband. However, I...
9 Sex Positions for Married Couples
As a society, we tend to think of sex (especially married sex) in only one way: penetration in missionary position. Although there is absolutely nothing wrong with this set up, some couples find that just the missionary sex position isn’t able to give them everything...
5 Spicy Bedroom Games
Bedroom games! Early in our marriage, my husband and I lived with my parents for a few months while we saved some money. We lived there with my parents and three youngest siblings. My little siblings LOVE to play games. We played bored games, card games,...
Anatomy & How To
How to Have Car Sex
You're sitting on the couch with your spouse, watching a classic RomCom. The protagonists on screen are in the car. It's pouring rain, or they’re stuck in a ditch, or their car has a flat tire, or any other number of plot conveniences to keep the pair stuck in the...
Your Wonderful Clitoris!
After getting married, we all make compromises. One of my compromises was watching all of the TV show How I Met Your Mother. I remember one scene where the married couple, Lilly and Marshall, are visiting the OBGYN. Marshall is looking at a diagram on the wall and...
Female Ejaculation (Squirting) & How To Make Your Wife Squirt (2023 Edition)
God designed our bodies and they do some pretty amazing things! Squirting and gushing, otherwise known as female ejaculation, is one of them. The idea that women ejaculate may seem weird to you, it's often misunderstood, and even a little bit controversial. If you've...
Tantric Sex: What, Why, and How
Before college, I had never heard of tantric sex. It wasn’t until I took a fantastic marriage prep class with the one and only Tammy Hill that I learned there was a whole other sexual mindset that was very different from what I had seen in movies and media. This week...
Fertility and Reproductive Health
A lot of couples have questions about fertility, hormones, and genitals in general. We don’t often see other people’s genitals and some of us don’t spend any time looking at our own! Therefore there are a lot of questions about what is “normal” down there. Fertility...
Making Sex Fun
How to DIY Lingerie
A few months before my wedding, I realized that I would soon have a need for lingerie. I was so excited by the prospect, but also so nervous. I made sure I was alone in my apartment, then opened an incognito tab to look up where to buy lingerie. To my dismay, it was...
How to Have Car Sex
You're sitting on the couch with your spouse, watching a classic RomCom. The protagonists on screen are in the car. It's pouring rain, or they’re stuck in a ditch, or their car has a flat tire, or any other number of plot conveniences to keep the pair stuck in the...
Lingerie 101
“Why don’t you slip into something more comfortable?” I remember sitting in my marriage preparation class in college, listening to my professor talk about lingerie. I was on the edge of my seat excited to get married and to wear sexy outfits for my husband. However, I...
9 Sex Positions for Married Couples
As a society, we tend to think of sex (especially married sex) in only one way: penetration in missionary position. Although there is absolutely nothing wrong with this set up, some couples find that just the missionary sex position isn’t able to give them everything...
5 Spicy Bedroom Games
Bedroom games! Early in our marriage, my husband and I lived with my parents for a few months while we saved some money. We lived there with my parents and three youngest siblings. My little siblings LOVE to play games. We played bored games, card games,...
Intimacy & Emotional needs
Communication
Understanding Responsive Desire
It’s a typical evening in the Severson household. My husband and I are watching TV. Suddenly, something gets me aroused. Maybe it’s a romantic line in the show, maybe it’s the feel of my husband’s arm around me, but either way all of the sudden I want him so bad. I...
Commuter Marriages: Keeping the Spark Alive
If you prefer to listen: here is our podcast on Commuter Marriages Many couples, for a variety of reasons, have to live apart for a time. This experience is sometimes called a long distance relationship or commuter marriage. Jobs, military deployments, sick relatives...
How to Write a Love Letter
“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate” - Shakespeare, Sonnet 18 The love letter is arguably the oldest and most romantic gesture of affection. We can find love letters at archeological sites that date back hundreds of...
“Spring Cleaning” Your Marriage
Spring is coming! This week in my hometown we finally saw the sun, and have been getting rain storms instead of snow. So that’s progress, right? Spring is my favorite season. It is full of hope: hope I will get to the end of the semester, hope the sun will come back,...
Holding Space: When Your Spouse has Sexual Trauma
Trauma is not something I would ever take lightly. I have been fortunate enough in my career to work with many women who have experienced sexual trauma. I have sat with them as they went through nightmares, flashbacks, memory gaps, and the painful process of healing....
Self-Sabotage in Marriage
It’s a typical evening in my apartment. I am working until 10 pm, when my husband finally gets home. I’ve been sitting at my laptop, writing this blog, and I want to practice what I’m preaching ;). I give my husband a big hug, but then beat around the bush. ...
The Silent Treatment: How to Break Down the Wall
The silent treatment. Picture this, you’ve had an argument or disagreement and you try to talk about it with your spouse. But they turn away from you, or refuse to talk, or leave the house and you are left feeling angry and confused. Have you ever had this happen to...
Triangulation: 3’s a Crowd
Triangulation is an intimidating word. It is used in scientific research and cartography to mean the process of using triangles to measure otherwise unmeasurable distances. However, this word is also used quite frequently in the mental health field. In this context,...
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner” and how it has affected her marriage. We learned all about what it means to be an “overfunctioner” and how to...
Masculine Leadership: Are We Missing Something?
On our podcast this week, G. S. Youngblood talks about masculine leadership in the home. It is his opinion that masculine leadership is missing in many homes, and especially in sexual relationships. To listen to his thoughts, check out our podcast episode...
Intimacy & Emotional needs
Understanding Responsive Desire
It’s a typical evening in the Severson household. My husband and I are watching TV. Suddenly, something gets me aroused. Maybe it’s a romantic line in the show, maybe it’s the feel of my husband’s arm around me, but either way all of the sudden I want him so bad. I...
Commuter Marriages: Keeping the Spark Alive
If you prefer to listen: here is our podcast on Commuter Marriages Many couples, for a variety of reasons, have to live apart for a time. This experience is sometimes called a long distance relationship or commuter marriage. Jobs, military deployments, sick relatives...
How to Write a Love Letter
“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate” - Shakespeare, Sonnet 18 The love letter is arguably the oldest and most romantic gesture of affection. We can find love letters at archeological sites that date back hundreds of...
“Spring Cleaning” Your Marriage
Spring is coming! This week in my hometown we finally saw the sun, and have been getting rain storms instead of snow. So that’s progress, right? Spring is my favorite season. It is full of hope: hope I will get to the end of the semester, hope the sun will come back,...
Holding Space: When Your Spouse has Sexual Trauma
Trauma is not something I would ever take lightly. I have been fortunate enough in my career to work with many women who have experienced sexual trauma. I have sat with them as they went through nightmares, flashbacks, memory gaps, and the painful process of healing....
Communication
Self-Sabotage in Marriage
It’s a typical evening in my apartment. I am working until 10 pm, when my husband finally gets home. I’ve been sitting at my laptop, writing this blog, and I want to practice what I’m preaching ;). I give my husband a big hug, but then beat around the bush. ...
The Silent Treatment: How to Break Down the Wall
The silent treatment. Picture this, you’ve had an argument or disagreement and you try to talk about it with your spouse. But they turn away from you, or refuse to talk, or leave the house and you are left feeling angry and confused. Have you ever had this happen to...
Triangulation: 3’s a Crowd
Triangulation is an intimidating word. It is used in scientific research and cartography to mean the process of using triangles to measure otherwise unmeasurable distances. However, this word is also used quite frequently in the mental health field. In this context,...
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner” and how it has affected her marriage. We learned all about what it means to be an “overfunctioner” and how to...
Masculine Leadership: Are We Missing Something?
On our podcast this week, G. S. Youngblood talks about masculine leadership in the home. It is his opinion that masculine leadership is missing in many homes, and especially in sexual relationships. To listen to his thoughts, check out our podcast episode...
Mythbusting
Questions & Answers
Blue Balls: Myth vs. Reality
Way back in the day, I remember sitting in my boyfriend (now husband)’s apartment hearing his roommate loudly complain. He was telling a story about making out with his girlfriend when he all of the sudden got “the worst pain of [his] life” in his balls. According to...
What Makes a Wife Sexy?
What makes a wife sexy? Although it seems like a silly question to some, I can almost guarantee every wife has asked herself (or her husband) a form of this question. It may sound more like “why did you marry me?” or “Do you even want me?”, but the general sentiment...
Busting the Myth of Sexual Compatibility
I made the decision early in life that I was going to wait until I got married to have sex. This was not a popular belief in high school. Many of my friends would say things like, “but what if he sucks in bed?” or “what if he’s kinky (or not kinky enough)?” or “what...
Male Sexual Desire: Combating the Myths
Dear readers, I want to share something personal with you. In my marriage, I am the higher desire spouse. Before marriage, I honestly didn’t know this was possible. I had learned from media that men almost always want sex and that it takes very little effort to turn...
Good Girl (And Guy) Syndrome
Most of us want to be a good girl or a good guy. We want to be good people and feel like we are doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, when this attitude is taken to the extreme it can have a negative effect on our lives. This especially applies to our sex...
Finding a Sex Therapist
How do you find a sex therapist? Many couples have periods in their relationship where their sex life is struggling. This can be due to a number of factors, and more often than not it is the culmination of several factors. If you are feeling hopeless, you may need...
My Favorite Marriage & Sex Books (2022)
Some of the books on our shelf A few years ago my wife and I decided we needed to learn a lot more about intimacy in marriage. We were cautious about what content we might run into with Google searches about our sex questions, so we talked with some trusted friends...
What’s Okay? Setting Sexual Boundaries
What's okay in a Christian marriage? Here at Get Your Marriage On! we get lots of questions in this same vein, such as… My husband used to watch porn and wants to use some things he learned.My wife wants to role play as other people.My spouse wants to try BDSM.Is...
Learning How to Have Great Newlywed Sex
Having sex for the first time can be incredibly intimidating, especially if you have choosen to wait for marriage. In this situation, it can feel like going 0 to 100 real fast and can make sex seem hard. I want to share a few tips to making newlywed sex great. My...
Commuter Marriages
Do you or your spouse live away from each other for part of the time? A commuter marriage is defined as a marriage where spouses live apart for reasons other than separation or divorce. Roughly 4 million American couples live apart for some or most of the time....
Mythbusting
Blue Balls: Myth vs. Reality
Way back in the day, I remember sitting in my boyfriend (now husband)’s apartment hearing his roommate loudly complain. He was telling a story about making out with his girlfriend when he all of the sudden got “the worst pain of [his] life” in his balls. According to...
What Makes a Wife Sexy?
What makes a wife sexy? Although it seems like a silly question to some, I can almost guarantee every wife has asked herself (or her husband) a form of this question. It may sound more like “why did you marry me?” or “Do you even want me?”, but the general sentiment...
Busting the Myth of Sexual Compatibility
I made the decision early in life that I was going to wait until I got married to have sex. This was not a popular belief in high school. Many of my friends would say things like, “but what if he sucks in bed?” or “what if he’s kinky (or not kinky enough)?” or “what...
Male Sexual Desire: Combating the Myths
Dear readers, I want to share something personal with you. In my marriage, I am the higher desire spouse. Before marriage, I honestly didn’t know this was possible. I had learned from media that men almost always want sex and that it takes very little effort to turn...
Good Girl (And Guy) Syndrome
Most of us want to be a good girl or a good guy. We want to be good people and feel like we are doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, when this attitude is taken to the extreme it can have a negative effect on our lives. This especially applies to our sex...
Questions & Answers
Finding a Sex Therapist
How do you find a sex therapist? Many couples have periods in their relationship where their sex life is struggling. This can be due to a number of factors, and more often than not it is the culmination of several factors. If you are feeling hopeless, you may need...
My Favorite Marriage & Sex Books (2022)
Some of the books on our shelf A few years ago my wife and I decided we needed to learn a lot more about intimacy in marriage. We were cautious about what content we might run into with Google searches about our sex questions, so we talked with some trusted friends...
What’s Okay? Setting Sexual Boundaries
What's okay in a Christian marriage? Here at Get Your Marriage On! we get lots of questions in this same vein, such as… My husband used to watch porn and wants to use some things he learned.My wife wants to role play as other people.My spouse wants to try BDSM.Is...
Learning How to Have Great Newlywed Sex
Having sex for the first time can be incredibly intimidating, especially if you have choosen to wait for marriage. In this situation, it can feel like going 0 to 100 real fast and can make sex seem hard. I want to share a few tips to making newlywed sex great. My...
Commuter Marriages
Do you or your spouse live away from each other for part of the time? A commuter marriage is defined as a marriage where spouses live apart for reasons other than separation or divorce. Roughly 4 million American couples live apart for some or most of the time....