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Female Ejaculation (Squirting) & How To Make Your Wife Squirt (2023 Edition)
God designed our bodies and they do some pretty amazing things! Squirting and gushing, otherwise known as female ejaculation, is one of them. The idea that women ejaculate may seem weird to you, it's often misunderstood, and even a little bit controversial. If you've...
Tantric Sex: What, Why, and How
Before college, I had never heard of tantric sex. It wasn’t until I took a fantastic marriage prep class with the one and only Tammy Hill that I learned there was a whole other sexual mindset that was very different from what I had seen in movies and media. This week...
Fertility and Reproductive Health
A lot of couples have questions about fertility, hormones, and genitals in general. We don’t often see other people’s genitals and some of us don’t spend any time looking at our own! Therefore there are a lot of questions about what is “normal” down there. Fertility...
Breast and Nipple Stimulation
Breasts and nipples are under-utilized erogenous zones. Although breasts are often seen as a symbol of “sexy”, we don’t tend to include them in our sexual encounters. There seems to be a lack of education on the topic and myths surrounding boobs. This article is here...
How to Have Steamy Shower Sex
Shower sex! You’ve seen it in the movies. That steamy couple who finds themselves sharing a shower and making out and ... If you’re anything like me, you were super excited to try it out! But the reality of my first shower with my husband was slippery, cold, and...
9 Sex Positions for Married Couples
As a society, we tend to think of sex (especially married sex) in only one way: penetration in missionary position. Although there is absolutely nothing wrong with this set up, some couples find that just the missionary sex position isn’t able to give them everything...
5 Spicy Bedroom Games
Bedroom games! Early in our marriage, my husband and I lived with my parents for a few months while we saved some money. We lived there with my parents and three youngest siblings. My little siblings LOVE to play games. We played bored games, card games,...
5 Roleplay Ideas for Married Couples
Do married couples role play? For many marriages (including mine), the answer is a big yes! When I was a kid, I was always playing imaginary games. I loved pretending to be a princess, or fairy, or mermaid (or a butterfly fairy princess, my speciality). As an adult, I...
Marriage Apps Round-Up!
What if I told you there was a “marriage app” that could benefit every part of your marriage. While there may not be just one app, we have discovered tons of great apps that have helped our marriages! Here’s a list of our top “marriage apps”... Why Apps? The world has...
Edging: Delaying Orgasm
Orgasming is great. Really really great! That rush of pleasure and release of sexual energy is something we all hope we get from a sexual encounter. However, the build up to the moment of orgasm can also be a wildly pleasurable experience. And while orgasm is often...
Anatomy & How To
Female Ejaculation (Squirting) & How To Make Your Wife Squirt (2023 Edition)
God designed our bodies and they do some pretty amazing things! Squirting and gushing, otherwise known as female ejaculation, is one of them. The idea that women ejaculate may seem weird to you, it's often misunderstood, and even a little bit controversial. If you've...
Tantric Sex: What, Why, and How
Before college, I had never heard of tantric sex. It wasn’t until I took a fantastic marriage prep class with the one and only Tammy Hill that I learned there was a whole other sexual mindset that was very different from what I had seen in movies and media. This week...
Fertility and Reproductive Health
A lot of couples have questions about fertility, hormones, and genitals in general. We don’t often see other people’s genitals and some of us don’t spend any time looking at our own! Therefore there are a lot of questions about what is “normal” down there. Fertility...
Breast and Nipple Stimulation
Breasts and nipples are under-utilized erogenous zones. Although breasts are often seen as a symbol of “sexy”, we don’t tend to include them in our sexual encounters. There seems to be a lack of education on the topic and myths surrounding boobs. This article is here...
How to Have Steamy Shower Sex
Shower sex! You’ve seen it in the movies. That steamy couple who finds themselves sharing a shower and making out and ... If you’re anything like me, you were super excited to try it out! But the reality of my first shower with my husband was slippery, cold, and...
Making Sex Fun
9 Sex Positions for Married Couples
As a society, we tend to think of sex (especially married sex) in only one way: penetration in missionary position. Although there is absolutely nothing wrong with this set up, some couples find that just the missionary sex position isn’t able to give them everything...
5 Spicy Bedroom Games
Bedroom games! Early in our marriage, my husband and I lived with my parents for a few months while we saved some money. We lived there with my parents and three youngest siblings. My little siblings LOVE to play games. We played bored games, card games,...
5 Roleplay Ideas for Married Couples
Do married couples role play? For many marriages (including mine), the answer is a big yes! When I was a kid, I was always playing imaginary games. I loved pretending to be a princess, or fairy, or mermaid (or a butterfly fairy princess, my speciality). As an adult, I...
Marriage Apps Round-Up!
What if I told you there was a “marriage app” that could benefit every part of your marriage. While there may not be just one app, we have discovered tons of great apps that have helped our marriages! Here’s a list of our top “marriage apps”... Why Apps? The world has...
Edging: Delaying Orgasm
Orgasming is great. Really really great! That rush of pleasure and release of sexual energy is something we all hope we get from a sexual encounter. However, the build up to the moment of orgasm can also be a wildly pleasurable experience. And while orgasm is often...
Intimacy & Emotional needs
Communication
How to Write a Love Letter
“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate” - Shakespeare, Sonnet 18 The love letter is arguably the oldest and most romantic gesture of affection. We can find love letters at archeological sites that date back hundreds of...
“Spring Cleaning” Your Marriage
Spring is coming! This week in my hometown we finally saw the sun, and have been getting rain storms instead of snow. So that’s progress, right? Spring is my favorite season. It is full of hope: hope I will get to the end of the semester, hope the sun will come back,...
Holding Space: When Your Spouse has Sexual Trauma
Trauma is not something I would ever take lightly. I have been fortunate enough in my career to work with many women who have experienced sexual trauma. I have sat with them as they went through nightmares, flashbacks, memory gaps, and the painful process of healing....
Moving on from Duty Sex
Many of us have heard the phrase “duty sex.” For some of us, it may be a regular occurrence in our marriages. Although it seems harmless to have sex with your spouse when you don’t want to, it can actually do damage to your sexual desire and safety. On our podcast...
Increasing the Love in our Marriages
There is a question that philosophers, scientists, and artists alike have been trying to answer for centuries: What is love? Some believe it is an emotion, others believe it’s a choice. Some claim love is an evolutionary trait designed to further the human race. But...
Triangulation: 3’s a Crowd
Triangulation is an intimidating word. It is used in scientific research and cartography to mean the process of using triangles to measure otherwise unmeasurable distances. However, this word is also used quite frequently in the mental health field. In this context,...
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner” and how it has affected her marriage. We learned all about what it means to be an “overfunctioner” and how to...
Masculine Leadership: Are We Missing Something?
On our podcast this week, G. S. Youngblood talks about masculine leadership in the home. It is his opinion that masculine leadership is missing in many homes, and especially in sexual relationships. To listen to his thoughts, check out our podcast episode...
Choosing to See The Beautiful
When you look at your spouse, what do you see? Do you see the messes they make and haven’t bothered yet to clean up? Or do you see the tender way in which they take care of your children? Do you let the clothes on the floor get the best of you, or appreciate the hard...
It’s All About The Positivity, Baby!
In Seattle, there's a "Love Lab". The Love Lab is a lot like what you'd expect for a nice nightly rental condo: a stocked kitchen, comfortable room, and cozy bedroom. Except for the cameras and microphones everywhere recording your every interaction (except in...
Intimacy & Emotional needs
How to Write a Love Letter
“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate” - Shakespeare, Sonnet 18 The love letter is arguably the oldest and most romantic gesture of affection. We can find love letters at archeological sites that date back hundreds of...
“Spring Cleaning” Your Marriage
Spring is coming! This week in my hometown we finally saw the sun, and have been getting rain storms instead of snow. So that’s progress, right? Spring is my favorite season. It is full of hope: hope I will get to the end of the semester, hope the sun will come back,...
Holding Space: When Your Spouse has Sexual Trauma
Trauma is not something I would ever take lightly. I have been fortunate enough in my career to work with many women who have experienced sexual trauma. I have sat with them as they went through nightmares, flashbacks, memory gaps, and the painful process of healing....
Moving on from Duty Sex
Many of us have heard the phrase “duty sex.” For some of us, it may be a regular occurrence in our marriages. Although it seems harmless to have sex with your spouse when you don’t want to, it can actually do damage to your sexual desire and safety. On our podcast...
Increasing the Love in our Marriages
There is a question that philosophers, scientists, and artists alike have been trying to answer for centuries: What is love? Some believe it is an emotion, others believe it’s a choice. Some claim love is an evolutionary trait designed to further the human race. But...
Communication
Triangulation: 3’s a Crowd
Triangulation is an intimidating word. It is used in scientific research and cartography to mean the process of using triangles to measure otherwise unmeasurable distances. However, this word is also used quite frequently in the mental health field. In this context,...
“Overfunctioning” in Relationships
This week on our podcast, we had the wonderful opportunity to hear from Rhonda Farr, a marriage coach. Rhonda told her story about being an “overfunctioner” and how it has affected her marriage. We learned all about what it means to be an “overfunctioner” and how to...
Masculine Leadership: Are We Missing Something?
On our podcast this week, G. S. Youngblood talks about masculine leadership in the home. It is his opinion that masculine leadership is missing in many homes, and especially in sexual relationships. To listen to his thoughts, check out our podcast episode...
Choosing to See The Beautiful
When you look at your spouse, what do you see? Do you see the messes they make and haven’t bothered yet to clean up? Or do you see the tender way in which they take care of your children? Do you let the clothes on the floor get the best of you, or appreciate the hard...
It’s All About The Positivity, Baby!
In Seattle, there's a "Love Lab". The Love Lab is a lot like what you'd expect for a nice nightly rental condo: a stocked kitchen, comfortable room, and cozy bedroom. Except for the cameras and microphones everywhere recording your every interaction (except in...
Mythbusting
Questions & Answers
What Makes a Wife Sexy?
What makes a wife sexy? Although it seems like a silly question to some, I can almost guarantee every wife has asked herself (or her husband) a form of this question. It may sound more like “why did you marry me?” or “Do you even want me?”, but the general sentiment...
Busting the Myth of Sexual Compatibility
I made the decision early in life that I was going to wait until I got married to have sex. This was not a popular belief in high school. Many of my friends would say things like, “but what if he sucks in bed?” or “what if he’s kinky (or not kinky enough)?” or “what...
Male Sexual Desire: Combating the Myths
Dear readers, I want to share something personal with you. In my marriage, I am the higher desire spouse. Before marriage, I honestly didn’t know this was possible. I had learned from media that men almost always want sex and that it takes very little effort to turn...
Good Girl (And Guy) Syndrome
Most of us want to be a good girl or a good guy. We want to be good people and feel like we are doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, when this attitude is taken to the extreme it can have a negative effect on our lives. This especially applies to our sex...
Talkin’ About Hard Stuff: Pornography and BDSM
Hello again! We get a lot of questions about what is right, and what is wrong in a marriage. Although we won’t be able to decide for you what is right in your marriage (see our post What’s Okay?), we can offer insight into what can be healthy and what attitudes are...
Finding a Sex Therapist
How do you find a sex therapist? Many couples have periods in their relationship where their sex life is struggling. This can be due to a number of factors, and more often than not it is the culmination of several factors. If you are feeling hopeless, you may need...
My Favorite Marriage & Sex Books (2022)
Some of the books on our shelf A few years ago my wife and I decided we needed to learn a lot more about intimacy in marriage. We were cautious about what content we might run into with Google searches about our sex questions, so we talked with some trusted friends...
What’s Okay? Setting Sexual Boundaries
What's okay in a Christian marriage? Here at Get Your Marriage On! we get lots of questions in this same vein, such as… My husband used to watch porn and wants to use some things he learned.My wife wants to role play as other people.My spouse wants to try BDSM.Is...
Learning How to Have Great Newlywed Sex
Having sex for the first time can be incredibly intimidating, especially if you have choosen to wait for marriage. In this situation, it can feel like going 0 to 100 real fast and can make sex seem hard. I want to share a few tips to making newlywed sex great. My...
Commuter Marriages
Do you or your spouse live away from each other for part of the time? A commuter marriage is defined as a marriage where spouses live apart for reasons other than separation or divorce. Roughly 4 million American couples live apart for some or most of the time....
Mythbusting
What Makes a Wife Sexy?
What makes a wife sexy? Although it seems like a silly question to some, I can almost guarantee every wife has asked herself (or her husband) a form of this question. It may sound more like “why did you marry me?” or “Do you even want me?”, but the general sentiment...
Busting the Myth of Sexual Compatibility
I made the decision early in life that I was going to wait until I got married to have sex. This was not a popular belief in high school. Many of my friends would say things like, “but what if he sucks in bed?” or “what if he’s kinky (or not kinky enough)?” or “what...
Male Sexual Desire: Combating the Myths
Dear readers, I want to share something personal with you. In my marriage, I am the higher desire spouse. Before marriage, I honestly didn’t know this was possible. I had learned from media that men almost always want sex and that it takes very little effort to turn...
Good Girl (And Guy) Syndrome
Most of us want to be a good girl or a good guy. We want to be good people and feel like we are doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, when this attitude is taken to the extreme it can have a negative effect on our lives. This especially applies to our sex...
Talkin’ About Hard Stuff: Pornography and BDSM
Hello again! We get a lot of questions about what is right, and what is wrong in a marriage. Although we won’t be able to decide for you what is right in your marriage (see our post What’s Okay?), we can offer insight into what can be healthy and what attitudes are...
Questions & Answers
Finding a Sex Therapist
How do you find a sex therapist? Many couples have periods in their relationship where their sex life is struggling. This can be due to a number of factors, and more often than not it is the culmination of several factors. If you are feeling hopeless, you may need...
My Favorite Marriage & Sex Books (2022)
Some of the books on our shelf A few years ago my wife and I decided we needed to learn a lot more about intimacy in marriage. We were cautious about what content we might run into with Google searches about our sex questions, so we talked with some trusted friends...
What’s Okay? Setting Sexual Boundaries
What's okay in a Christian marriage? Here at Get Your Marriage On! we get lots of questions in this same vein, such as… My husband used to watch porn and wants to use some things he learned.My wife wants to role play as other people.My spouse wants to try BDSM.Is...
Learning How to Have Great Newlywed Sex
Having sex for the first time can be incredibly intimidating, especially if you have choosen to wait for marriage. In this situation, it can feel like going 0 to 100 real fast and can make sex seem hard. I want to share a few tips to making newlywed sex great. My...
Commuter Marriages
Do you or your spouse live away from each other for part of the time? A commuter marriage is defined as a marriage where spouses live apart for reasons other than separation or divorce. Roughly 4 million American couples live apart for some or most of the time....