This week on Get Your Marriage On!, Dan interviews Dana Che. Dana is a relationship and marriage coach. Together they discuss how God can help you overcome common struggles within marriages while living true to your identity.
What We Cover in This Episode
Dana Che married at 18 with almost no roadmap, and she’s refreshingly honest about the years she and her husband struggled—mostly with unmet expectations and two very different upbringings around conflict. When they reached out for help and got rejected, it seeded her work as a pastor and relationship coach. We talk about maturing in marriage: recognizing who you really are in heated moments, embracing healthy conflict as growth, and—when your spouse isn’t in the same spiritual place—loving them instead of trying to force change.
Key takeaways
- Much early conflict is really about unmet (and unspoken) expectations.
- Your family background shapes how you handle conflict—often without you realizing it.
- Maturity means remembering who you are, even when you’re angry.
- You can’t manipulate or shame your spouse into spiritual or personal growth.
- Your job is to love your spouse and work on yourself—and trust God with the rest.
To go deeper, work on becoming a more secure, less reactive partner through your attachment style, build your emotional intimacy, and find peace when faith feels at odds in your marriage.
If you’d like guidance maturing and growing closer together, our Next Level program is here to help.
