A few years ago, I was sitting around a campfire with other dads, hearing their stories of exciting trips and getaways they’ve been on with their wives. I was depressed, thinking, “woe is me!” With 6 young kids, and on a budget, all I could think of was reasons why I would never be able to enjoy that kind of an experience.
Fast forward six months later, I was sitting on a beautiful beach in Florida with my wife, just the two of us, enjoying one of the most intimate and romantic moments of our marriage up until that point.
We had experienced a miracle in our marriage.
Miracles happen, and this can be the year you experience more of them in your life.
One of the most often-repeated themes in the New Testament is “ask and ye shall receive.” In one way or another, that theme is expressed 100 times!
God is a giver of good gifts. He wants to bless us with good things and experiences that give us growth, joy, and hope.
We invite God to help us by identifying clearly our goals, creating a vision, asking, and living with gratitude for everything we receive, both the good and the bad.
It’s up to us to desire, ask, work for, and be grateful for the kind of marriage we want. You can have a smoking hot sex life as you put this process to work in your life.
What We Cover in This Episode
In this solo episode I share how my wife and I went from “woe is me” at a campfire—sure we’d never get a real getaway with six young kids—to one of the most romantic moments of our marriage on a beach in Florida just six months later. It felt like a miracle, and it points to a process anyone can use.
I walk through three truths that anchor it: God loves you and wants to give you good gifts, your happiness is your own responsibility (not your spouse’s job), and the principle of “ask, seek, knock.” Partnering with God means clarifying your goals, picturing the marriage you want, taking real action, and living with gratitude—through the good and the hard.
It’s a hopeful, faith-rooted invitation to stop settling for the mundane and intentionally build an extraordinary marriage—romantic getaways and a vibrant sex life included.
Key takeaways
- God delights in giving good gifts—He wants joy and growth for your marriage, not bare survival.
- Your happiness is your responsibility; a marriage is where you live it out, not what creates it.
- “Ask, seek, knock”: clarify what you want, then take real action toward it.
- Set specific goals and a vision—picture the marriage and the spouse you want to become.
- Practice gratitude for everything, the good and the hard, and trust God’s goodness.
If partnering with God to build your marriage speaks to you, explore how God’s design includes pleasure and joy, see the bigger picture of faith and intimacy in marriage, and deepen the emotional connection that makes getaways so meaningful.
Ready to turn vision into reality together? Our Next Level program can help you build the marriage you’re picturing.
