I’ve observed from my own experience and coaching other couples that we often get in our own way of having the love and passion that we could experience in our own marriages. Sometimes we’re just too focused on whether or not our spouse is reciprocating the love we think we’re offering. In other words, we reduce love and marriage to be transactional.
I love this interview that I have with Dr. Corey Allan because he talks about really powerful questions to ask oneself: “Would I want to be married to me? and “How am I being towards my spouse right now?” I think those two questions can guide us through a lot of the transitions and difficulties and also guide us to creating a more passionate and intimately connected marriage.