When it comes to sexual arousal, many of us reach for that excited, giddy, sometimes silly, sometimes serious, joyful, fulfilling feelings in the company of someone else that matters so much to us.
And how do you create a marriage relationship where there’s room for two people to have a voice? And how do you create a sexual relationship where both people are excited and happy to be a part of it? Today’s guest is Dr. Steven Snyder. He is a sex therapist from New York City, and the author of the book Love Worth Making, which I highly enjoyed. And I feel privileged to host him on this podcast.
Here’s what you’ll learn in the episode:
- Why the sexual feelings we crave matter to you
- A two-step approach to finding it easier to connect to sexual motivation
- What “lazy sex” is and how you could put it to action in your own life, especially if you’re busy
- The importance of this concept called “simmering” to foster desire
- The surprising difference between giving and taking pleasure
What We Cover in This Episode
Dr. Stephen Snyder, a New York City sex therapist and author of Love Worth Making, has a refreshingly human way of talking about desire. We start with why those excited, giddy, joyful sexual feelings matter so much—and how to build a marriage where both partners have a real voice and genuinely want to be there.
From there, Steven shares his two-step approach to connecting with your own sexual motivation, the idea of “lazy sex” for tired and busy couples, and the underrated power of “simmering”—keeping a gentle erotic charge alive between encounters. We also dig into the surprising difference between giving and taking pleasure, and why receiving can be every bit as generous as giving.
Want to go deeper? Learn how to build arousal and get in the mood, understand responsive desire and how to foster it, and discover why emotional connection fuels great sex.
If you’d love personal guidance bringing more of this into your marriage, our Next Level program can help.
Note that this is a part one, so don’t miss out on part two (available now!)
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