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304: When You’re Both Trying, But Your Sex Life is Just Stuck (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 2)

Why do so many couples feel stuck, even when they’re both trying their best?

In Part 2 of this real coaching series, Peggy and Steve come back after working on making intimacy more fun and less performative.

And for a while, it works.

But underneath the progress, a deeper pattern starts to surface—one that keeps pulling them right back into the same frustrating gridlock.

Inside this episode, you’ll hear:

  • How “needy” energy shows up in subtle, unintentional ways
  • Why looking to your spouse to fix how you feel creates disconnection
  • The difference between wanting connection and depending on it
  • How both partners can feel powerless—even in a loving marriage

This episode gets to the core of a pattern many couples don’t realize they’re in:

👉 When you rely on your partner to regulate your emotions, intimacy starts to feel like pressure—not connection.

And when that happens, both people lose.

The goal isn’t to stop wanting each other.
It’s to stop needing your partner to feel okay.

Because that’s where real connection—and real desire—can actually grow.

This is Part 2 of a 5-part coaching series where you’ll hear what it takes to break out of that cycle and create something better. Make sure you’ve listened to Part 1 first!

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Meet your host, Dan Purcell, a marriage, sex & intimacy coach. Our mission is to help you build and maintain a sexually vibrant & emotionally intimate marriage. Join us each week as we explore principles & practical, christian based tools to create a thriving marriage.

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