A few years ago, I stumbled upon a book by Laura Corn titled The New American Sex Diet. Catchy, right? The concept grabbed my attention, and I couldn’t resist diving in. In this book, Laura and 38 couples of all ages and stages—some with kids, some without, some perfectly content, others struggling—took on a daring 30-day challenge. The mission? Increase sexual frequency for a month while adding variety and creating space for anticipation between encounters. Every couple took Before and After photos, and the results were nothing short of inspiring.
What happened? These couples didn’t just look better—they felt better. They started listening more, treating each other with tenderness, and truly falling in love all over again. Their marriages transformed, and you could see it in their smiles, their eyes, their whole demeanor.
Inspired by this, my wife and I gave it a try a few Septembers ago. We called it “Sextember,” and let me tell you—it brought us closer, strengthened our bond, and added a whole lot of fun to our lives. Now, we’re inviting you to join us in making September your very own Sextember.
Setting Up Sextember
There are three parts to pulling off a successful (or should I say, “sexcessful”) Sextember:
- Plan ahead. Talk to your spouse about what sounds relaxing, fun, or enticing for both of you and make a plan (using the app or a calendar) as to what you want to try on what days
- Identify one obstacle. Every couple has one or two obstacles that get in the way of a better sex life. Is it being too tired? Stressed? A lack of romance? Zero in on overcoming just one obstacle for a month.
- Anticipation and variety. Anticipating what’s going to happen is just as fun as actually doing it. Also mix it up, don’t do the same things over and over.
We’ve added some fantastic features and suggestions to the Intimately Us app just for you! During the month of September, you can design your own challenges that fit perfectly into your life and your marriage.
Personalizing Sextember
Now, I know for some of you daily sex might sound daunting, or maybe not quite right for your relationship. That’s okay! Sextember is about discovering what’s standing in the way of closeness and connection for you. Whether it’s communication, quality time, or something else, adjust your challenge to suit your needs and create a month that builds intimacy and closeness between you and your spouse.
And because I love a good challenge, we’re making it even more fun! Couples who complete 20 out of 30 days of challenges are eligible for some exciting prizes. Plus, we’ll send you a Certificate of Completion to proudly display on your fridge (or maybe tuck away for just the two of you to see 😉).
So, what do you say? Download the Intimately Us app today and get ready for your happiest, closest, and sexiest month yet.
Here’s to falling in love all over again!
