For a lot of couples, Christmastime is a really stressful time of the year. There’s a lot of end of year projects for work and school; there’s also gift shopping and preparations for guests and meals and Christmas cards and dinners and parties, and the list just keeps going on and on and on.
And if you have children, it just multiplies the complexity by every child that you have in your home.
But Christmastime can also be a very special, sexy time of year. Think about it. Think of all the romantic, Christmas-themed movies that we love. Think about the time you get a snuggle by a fire. Think about the fun that you can have with your spouse when the world kind of slows down for a little bit. It can become a very sexy time.
In fact, a friend pointed out to me that, in the United States at least, we have the highest birth rate at the end of August, early September. I didn’t believe him. So I double checked it. And it’s true! In the United States, we have the most births in late August, early September. Which means most people are being conceived around Christmas time.
And I want this to be a very sexy time for you too! So I’m going to offer you 12 sexy Christmastime tips in this episode!
The 12 Ideas
Before the list, here’s the heart of it: the best sex isn’t about chasing an orgasm or doing your duty—it’s about celebrating each other. When you let tenderness, fun, passion, and desire run free, intimacy becomes the lifeblood of your marriage. With that spirit, here are twelve simple, playful ways to make the season a little warmer and closer:
- Relax and have fun. Let go of performance pressure and simply enjoy each other—the afterglow lasts longer.
- Play a bedroom game. Games break the monotony and add creativity (the Intimately Us app has a fun December “Santa’s Workshop” adventure).
- Offer five-star service. Surprise your spouse with a playful “personal servant” bit—accent and all.
- Schedule a getaway. Even one night away sparks novelty, curiosity, and deeper conversation.
- Make out. Kissing is underrated—hang some mistletoe and enjoy a steamy make-out session.
- “Find the soap.” A warm bubble-bath game (from Tammy Hill’s Replenish) that’s equal parts relaxing and flirty.
- Romance movie night. Cue up the Christmas rom-coms and snuggle in for a cozy marathon.
- Christmas-themed positions. Add a playful seasonal twist to your favorites.
- Write a sexy story together. Take turns adding lines to a shared, steamy “Twas the night before…” tale.
- Desserts on me. Turn all those holiday treats into a playful, sensory experience.
- Play a stripping game. Turn any two-player card or board game into lighthearted foreplay.
- Dance together. Dim the lights, light some candles, and enjoy the closeness of a slow dance.
Looking for more ways to keep things playful and connected? Learn how to get in the mood and build desire, keep desire alive over the long haul, and deepen the emotional connection that makes the fun even better.
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