29 Spicy Questions To Ask Your Spouse

A recent podcast guest shared her black belt sex tip: start the day by asking each other a sexy question. What a fun idea! It gives both of you an opportunity to share your intimate mind and maybe even get you in the mood.

With 29 days left to go in the year, here’s 29 fun and spicy questions you can ask each other:

1. What do I do that turns you on the most?
2. What’s your most memorable non-bedroom location we’ve made love?
3. When life gets busy, what can I do to stay emotionally and sexually connected to you?
4. Would you rather have spontaneous sex in the shower or something planned in advance in bed? Why?
5. What do you wish we did more of in our sex life?
6. Would you rather go one month of mediocre sex every day or one month without sex except for one exceptional evening?
7. Do you prefer sex at night or in the morning? Why? Are we opposites or agree in this?
8. You turn yourself on when: ______
9. I turn myself off when: ______
10. What are three places other than our bed that you’ve thought about having sex?
11. If we can go back in time to change one thing about our first time having sex together, what would you do differently?
12. What’s something sexual or intimate you weren’t interested in at first but now enjoy?
13. What’s a favorite memory of a time we had sex where you remember laughing the most?
14. What’s one of your secret sexual fantasies?
15. What’s a favorite sexual memory where it was particularly pleasurable?
16. Can you name a time you were really turned on by something I did and I didn’t notice you were turned on?
17. What’s one of your secret sexual fantasies?
18. How has your childhood or upbringing shaped your sexuality?
19. If sexual intercourse wasn’t an option but we still wanted to play sexually, what would you do?
20. What’s a favorite sexual memory of a time you felt embarrassed during or because of sex?
21. What’s the biggest thing that we disagree on about our sexual relationship? 
22. Complete the story: It was a rainy Sunday afternoon, and our other plans got cancelled. It was just the two of us at home without distractions. __________
23. If you could have a sexual superpower, what would it be and why?
24. Is it easier for you to give or receive sexual pleasure? Why?
25. How do I let you know that I’m in the mood? 
26. What’s something creative you’d like to add to enhance our sexual play?
27. What’s the spiciest or sexiest text message you received from me? What made it exciting?
28. What’s your favorite form of foreplay?
29. What sexual goals would you like to set together for 2026?

Try a few of these questions and let me know what it does for your marriage this month!