Purchasing and wearing lingerie can often be surrounded by comparison, insecurity, and pressure, but it doesn’t have to be! In this episode, Melina Weekes of Dainty Lace shares how fabrics, colors, mindset, and small daily practices can help women feel genuinely beautiful and confident in their own skin. Whether you’re brand-new to lingerie or wanting to rekindle confidence in your marriage, this episode offers practical, uplifting guidance rooted in self-worth and connection.
In this episode, we cover:
- How comparison keeps women (and men) stuck
- The way different fabrics influence how you feel and why that matters in intimacy
- How to discover your color season and why the right tones instantly boost confidence
- Why lingerie isn’t “just for the wedding night”
- How Christian women can reclaim confidence without compromising values
- Lingerie shopping as a husband
- Melina’s surprising “black belt sex tip” (hint: it involves cowboys 😉)
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Website: Daintylace.com
Instagram: @dainty.lace.confidence
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Transcript
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Lingerie and Self Confidence with Melina Weeks of Dainty Lace
Dan: [00:00:00] I gotta admit, it is a little weird as a man having a conversation with a woman about lingerie, but I hope our listeners will forgive me because to me, the conversation isn’t so much about the clothing and about, uh, or the lack of clothing
Melina: Yeah,
Dan: and the skin you wanna share.
But.
Melina: of it.
Dan: To me, it represents something a little bit deeper, and I hope that’s what our listeners get from this. It’s about confidence.
Melina: Yep. And that’s exactly what I’m trying to promote.
One of my goals of this podcast is to discover the principles that keep long-term marriages passionate, [00:01:00] full of desire and sexy. Today you’ll get to meet a friend of mine, Molina, who’s a really impressive woman. She started a new line of lingerie as a newlywed and as a young college student. We’ll talk about how lingerie is so much more than what you wear, or in this case don’t wear, but what it represents.
Dan – May 2025: You’ll hear Melina share what she’s learned about gaining self-confidence herself. Even in intimate matters. She’ll teach us tips on how to choose the best lingerie colors that go with your skin colors so that you’re guaranteed to look dashing. Stay to the end also to hear her black belt sex tip. On a personal note, I’m releasing this episode on Friday the 28th of November, and this also happens to be my wedding anniversary.
I am so grateful for my wife Emily. Not a day goes by where I am not amazed by her charm, depth of person, intellect, loyalty, and the light and beauty she brings to life. To those around me and her every day. I am so [00:02:00] lucky to be influenced by her goodness and to be married to her. I love you, Emily. I am also releasing this episode the day after Thanksgiving, and I have much to be grateful for. I’m grateful for you. My dear friends that listen to this podcast. I’m grateful for my incredible team, their talents and their commitment to the cause of helping married couples everywhere have deeper, more meaningful and intimate and sexually connected marriages too.
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Dan: Melina, welcome to the Get Your Marriage On Podcast. I’m so happy and honored to have you here today. How you doing?
Melina: I’ve [00:04:00] been looking forward to this ever since we set it up, so thank you for having me.
Dan: That’s great. So what is it like running a lingerie business? I mean, what, what do you tell strangers or friends that this is what you do?
Melina: Oh my gosh, it, well, first of all, before I even get into the business and all about the lingerie world, I was young, it was so hard for me to get on stage and talk to people so
Dan: Uh huh.
Melina: and I don’t know how, but I got the lead in a little play in fifth grade, and so I got up on my courage and I went out there and I froze.
Dan: Oh,
Melina: saw my mom and dad in the crowd and I just froze and I was so. Scared
Dan: Uhhuh.
Melina: to run off the stage and they had to tell me my lines and I went back out and fast forward
Dan: Uhhuh,
Melina: 20 years
Dan: uh.
Melina: and this morning, I actually gave. much a TED talk about dainty, lace and lingerie, and so it’s been a long [00:05:00] but slow and steady.
I am now talking about it every single day and it’s been so fun
Dan: that is so cool. So public speaking hasn’t always been your forte, but now you’re a little bit better at it. That’s cool.
Melina: bit trying.
Dan: great. So I wanna hear more about the content of your Ted Talk today and, and hear about, this amazing product and business that you’ve created too. Mm-hmm.
Melina: it actually got started when I, I’d love to take my friend’s lingerie shopping for their wedding night. And that’s the little gift that I’d give them. And the last couple times that I went with my friends and I took them to the store and I was so excited ’cause I, it’s so fun to like pick out the cute pieces and give them to them.
And they were very, very uncomfortable the whole time. And. was trying to like tell them like, this is fun, this is great. And I realized that they were gravitating towards more high coverage pieces and They compared themselves to the models quite a bit in the
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: so it’s just a very uncomfortable [00:06:00] experience.
So we then turned to online shopping to try and find more high coverage pieces and there wasn’t a dedicated spot. For high coverage, lingerie for, or beginner friendly lingerie.
Dan: Gotcha.
Melina: so from then on I was like, you know what? I’m gonna make this. I’m gonna do it. And so Dainty lace is for all the women that are trying to find something a little more high coverage, and elegant and beautiful and feminine.
And that’s how it got started.
Dan: That’s great. Good. So, high coverage, just to break it down, that, that means,
Melina: I like to say the
Dan: elegant, classy.
Melina: private for a little bit.
Dan: Okay. Gotcha. Yeah. Very good. Very good. Very good.
Melina: I
Dan: That’s cool.
Melina: compare it to like lounge
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: for if you’re just around the house and you want something light. And I, like you said, feminine and elegant. but don’t wanna just have everything out.
Dan: Got it. Very comfortable. I love it. Very good. So I, I gotta ask, [00:07:00] was it easy starting a lingerie business? Like, I know there’s a logistical side of things, but what about everything that goes on inside of you? Like, do I, am I really gonna do this? ’cause because it exposes you so much and now it,
Melina: a,
Dan: right?
Melina: word.
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: It’s, at first it was very, very difficult to talk about with friends and family where especially I did not wanna post it on social media for a little while talking to them, being like, I’m gonna start a lingerie company. And a few, mainly it was like, my like, grandma figures in my life were like, what do you mean, what are you talking about?
What, what that do? They, they thought it, it. with my values, but then I expressed to them, no, this is actually very in line with my values, where everything I’m doing is to promote confidence.
Dan: Mm.
Melina: I’m doing is to promote confidence. And so once they understood the mission that I was doing with my lingerie,
Dan: Uhhuh.
Melina: they’re like, okay, I can get [00:08:00] on board with that.
Dan: That’s good. I’m glad to bring that up. So were you always confident when it came to lingerie yourself?
Melina: No, no.
Dan: Tell me the story, your first lingerie.
Melina: Yeah. You know, there’s, there’s always a story. Um, so my. I grew up not talking about intimacy and, lingerie at all. That was not gonna happen. Um, but my amazing mother-in-law when I’m about to get married, she said, you know, I don’t know what your like feelings are about this, but here’s $200.
Go and buy yourself something pretty. And she sent me some of the websites that she loved, and I’m looking at these websites like, there’s no way I will. I’m like, am I supposed to be looking at this stuff? Is this for me? Am I gonna look like this? And I just quickly bought something and I don’t, yeah, it’s, it was an experience, to say the least.
That was my first introduction into the lingerie world. And it’s, it was rocky to say the
Dan: Gotcha. Yeah. So you think back on that experience and [00:09:00] you’re now fast forward a few years, you’re, you know, linking arms with friends wanting to go linger shopping for them. So obviously a lot’s transformed for you since that first shopping experience. But tell me more what’s going on in that transformation?
Melina: Yeah, a lot of it just has to do with the. The, the mindset of what lingerie is, and it’s not about, like, I would always compare myself to the models. Am I supposed to be acting sexy all the time? Am I supposed to be looking like this person? And that’s not what lingerie is about at all. It’s about putting something on that makes you feel beautiful, that makes you feel confident, and then you can take that into whatever you’re doing in the bedroom or not, or lounging around the house.
But it’s all about those small things that you can do to feel confident.
Dan: I like it. Very good. So, uh, then what happens? You had that shocking lingerie shopping experience yourself, you kept married. Then tell me more. How, how do you [00:10:00] develop more confidence yourself?
Melina: Yeah, so it, it really has to do with, I like to think of it as a couple different things that can help you become. More confident with lingerie or with anything else. And a lot of it has to do with the way you view yourself as well,
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: to know your body. And sounds a little weird, but you should feel beautiful and confident in your body all the time, whether you’re trying to improve certain things about it or not.
You should feel beautiful all the time. And so something that I’ve learned is the way fabric makes me feel, brings out more confidence.
Dan: Oh, gotcha. So there’s different kinds of fabrics. If someone’s a little new to all this, can you talk about different types of fabrics,
Melina: course, yes. I, I love this and I, I think about this when I design, my pieces, what will make someone feel the, whatever feeling I’m hoping they feel in these pieces. And so I, most of my pieces are in satin and satin. Symbolizes luxury [00:11:00] and elegance and intimacy. It’s all about like being connected with yourself and with your partner.
And so it has this silky, smooth texture. it almost feels just like you’re putting on air, like nothing.
Dan: Uh,
Melina: it’s something there.
Dan: Uhhuh.
Melina: and it creates this romantic. And like elevated luxury feelings.
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: use satin
Dan: Yeah.
Melina: But there’s lots of other fabrics. lace also is like delicate and feminine and beauty.
You see that a lot in lingerie or in like a wedding dress ’cause it’s. Symbolizing that beauty and it’s soft. And that’s one thing when I was talking to my friends at first, like, I’m gonna start a lingerie company. What do you not like about like other lingerie companies? Or what things do you like trying to gain more empathy data?
Dan: uh,
Melina: And they said, I hate itchy lace.
Dan: uh.
Melina: Do not do itchy lays. I’m like, deal. We’re gonna have the softest lace. ’cause that is important. Again, it’s [00:12:00] all about making you feel a certain way.
Dan: Hmm.
Melina: go on and on. How many pieces of like fabric do you want me to talk
Dan: Yeah. What about fabric that’s more, uh, closer to your skin rather than more flowy?
Melina: Yeah, so you have cotton, and cotton symbolizes like comfort and like approachability. A lot of our clothes are made from
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: Um, it’s also just a very healthy, all of it’s natural. Um, but it’s, it’s very breathable and soft and cozy. It can make you feel more down to
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: relaxed. And so if those are the kind of the feelings you’re wanting to go for, definitely choose a cotton. Dress or cotton shirt.
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: there’s also, it’s, I’m pretty sure it’s pronounced modal. It’s like bamboo and it’s super duper soft. Super soft, and a lot of pajamas are made from bamboo cotton and
Dan: like the starch of the bamboo. They somehow process that to make it okay.
Melina: another incredibly [00:13:00] smooth and breathable, stretchy fabric, I would definitely wanna go to sleep in.
Dan: Uhhuh great.
Melina: Um, and then there’s more fun fabrics like mesh. mesh is very playful and bold and or tool. You can see that in like tutu’s, like it’s very fun and playful and like whimsical. So if you’re going for more of those feelings, definitely choose something with a little tool. It can kind of perk up
Dan: uh.
Melina: or you can wear under a skirt and it kind of. It up your skirt, and by no means am I an expert in all of this, but this is just what I have found as fabric has helped me feel a little bit more confident as I’m picking out my fabrics and a little bit more intentional about what I’m putting on my body to make me feel a little more confident.
Dan: Do you recommend people assess kind of their own personality? Because I think it’s not confident to try to be someone you’re not. Right? Like Sexy is being, I, I guess this is my definition of sexy. Maybe you can enlighten [00:14:00] me differently, but to me it’s the idea of I am leaning into my core self and just expressing that I’m not trying to be someone I’m not.
it’s about me genuinely being me. And so you want to choose like fabrics that kind of express what it is in you that do that. I think that’s what I hear you saying.
Melina: oh. Yes. And if you’re like a leather person, if you feel the most confident and beautiful in men or women, like this is for everyone. If you feel most confident in leather, you wear that leather and you rock it,
Dan: Uhhuh, right.
Melina: there’s, there’s also colors. Colors play a big part in you. Feel more confident.
And I love that you said putting your personality, and that’s something that I was trying to figure out, cause I don’t know if you know this, but there’s different seasons based on your skin tone and, there’s colors that can bring out the natural glow
Dan: Uh huh. Right.
Melina: And I’ve always thought I was a winter, like my whole life.
I’m like, I have dark brown hair, I’ve got [00:15:00] dark hazel eyes, like I’m a winter.
Dan: and you have a light complexion too, Uhhuh, right?
Melina: fair complexion
Dan: Uh.
Melina: and I re, I was recently reading a book, called Color Me Beautiful. It was, it was in the 1980s is when it was written, but the principles are still applicable today and she talks about the seasons and so I took the test again recently and I’m a summer.
Dan: Oh.
Melina: I, it blew my mind. I was, are you really? I’m a summer, but it makes so much sense now that I’m looking at my wardrobe and I’m looking at the colors that I always pick out, and definitely a summer, so I would love to talk a little bit about that.
Dan: Let’s do,
Melina: yeah,
Dan: yeah. Yeah. So I came across this concept my freshman year of college. I remember in the cafeteria of the university, like for lunch and talking with this girl. We had become just good friends and she was a fashion design major, and she’s telling me about Different seasons, like are you a summer person, winter person?
Uh, anyway, uh, that’s my limited exposure. Let’s, let’s go deeper. Uh.
Melina: so [00:16:00] fascinating and I love that you said, uh, like a summer person or a, like, it’s not so much a personality trait, but it’s more of something that can bring out the natural glow in. Within you to bring out. And so there’s certain colors and certain cool tones or warm tones that can bring out that natural glow.
Dan: Uh,
Melina: so wearing those colors can then in turn make you feel more confident. So let’s get into it. So first, for your viewers who have like never heard about this,
Dan: Uhhuh.
Melina: are two different, there’s four seasons and just like in nature, she shows her beauty in different
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: seasons. And each one is. Uniquely beautiful. All of them are beautiful. And so you can go to these seasons and pick out the color palette, and then those will bring out your natural glow. So to find your season, you can look at the veins
Dan: Okay. All right.
Melina: yeah, go ahead and do that. yeah, if they’re more blue toned,
Dan: [00:17:00] Uh,
Melina: you are cool.
Dan: okay.
Melina: mean, you’re all, everybody’s cool,
Dan: Oh yeah.
Melina: cool toned, and then if they’re more green or golden, then you are warm, toned.
Dan: Okay. Got it.
Melina: And so cool toned. Usually, um, you can wear silver
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: often. I, I look better in silver ’cause I’m a cool toned. If I wear gold, it kind of washes me out. But warm tones definitely wear gold.
And then there’s, if you can’t really tell, you’re kind of in the middle, there’s neutral and you can just rock anything. I. Happy for you. That’s not me.
Dan: Okay.
Melina: Yes, and so then you can look at your eye colors.
Dan: All right.
Melina: And this isn’t like a end all be all, but you can see little flex, whatever your eye color is. You can see flex of like
Dan: Other colors too. Uh.
Melina: or like, yeah.
Yep. So either it’ll be more warm toned or more cool toned as well if you’re still like, I have no idea. And [00:18:00] then we’ll go into the different seasons. So the cool toned seasons are winter
Dan: Uh,
Melina: and summer.
Dan: okay.
Melina: And
Dan: is a cool tone. All right. Not what I would’ve.
Melina: right. And so that’s why I always. always thought I was a winter, but I’m actually a summer anyways, but, so we’ll start with winter. Winter can be described, um, when you look at the colors you’re thinking of, like cool, but also brilliant. And it’s like ice is like pure white or pure black. Black looks so good on a winter and white, pure white looks so good on a winter.
Dan: Uh.
Melina: Bright reds and bright blues. These, are just bold. and so winter is cool. it’s, a spectrum of light and dark,
Dan: Okay.
Melina: we could go into, but I’ll kind of just briefly gloss over it. It’s a more dark and it’s bright. So anything super bright. And I [00:19:00] brought, some visuals, sorry for the audio listeners, but I have this very bright. Red
Dan: Fabric. I see you holding your hand. Okay. Right.
Melina: A very bright. Think of like Christmas,
Dan: Okay.
Melina: like very bright reds and bright
Dan: Uhhuh.
Melina: Winters, obviously Christmas and winter. It makes sense. Winters look best in these bright colors.
Dan: Great.
Melina: Any questions about that?
Dan: Okay, that’s great. So would it make sense now to talk about summer then? Okay. Which is the other cool set of colors.
Melina: yes. So it’s the other cool, but think of light and soft and more saturated. So instead of these bright colors, they’re more muted.
Dan: Okay.
Melina: And so think of like hazy and chalky or like out on a summer’s day, you can kind of see these. They’re still, they’re still light colors,
Dan: Mm-hmm.
Melina: as bright of colors, and so I’m currently wearing like a burgundy It’s cool toned, but it is very [00:20:00] saturated. It’s not super bright on me, so I picked this ’cause summer, I’m trying to figure out my summer wardrobe
Dan: gotcha. So I’m holding my hand a shirt. It’s, it’s a blue, it’s kind of a light blue. It’s not a bold blue. This is a summer Cool color. I see. Okay.
Melina: and you can definitely tell if you’re like, well, both blues. Yeah. So that’d be more bright red that you’re holding in your hand. And, but then you can think of, well, what, what about summer versus spring? Like they both have more pastel soft colors. So we’ll go into spring. Spring is, um. more saturated as well.
It’s still pretty bright and light, but think of like warmth. Anything that has the sun in this spring is very warm, so very yellow toned. So, um, I, there’s like no spring colors in my house, which is very unfortunate. But think of yellow in the pink or [00:21:00] yellow behind the blue, instead of a cool toned. It’s a warm toned blue
Dan: All right. Got it.
Melina: yeah, so that’s spring. And then the last one is autumn. And autumn. You can think of as like spicy and smoky. And you can think of like all the smells of, uh, like October
Dan: Uh,
Melina: ugh. So good. Um, another word I like to think about is like blazing.
Dan: all
Melina: Uh, a lot of redheads are autumn. Um, they just look so good in these bright. Warm colors. So a bright orange or a bright yellow. Um, so everything is again, very warm. and still can be. spring is more, it’s pastelly, but it’s still bright and autumn is more saturated like a summer, but. In warm tones,
Dan: That’s so cool.
Melina: helps. It is
Dan: Uh.
Melina: colors to show.
You. Definitely look [00:22:00] online, on my website. I also have stuff about this on dainty lace,
Dan: Great. Maybe we can drop a link in the show notes so you can reference this.
Melina: For sure.
Dan: Great. So we’re really talking about the small things we can do to feel more confident and sexy. So far we’ve talked about sexy isn’t like a what someone else is. It’s what you are. It’s, it’s a appealing to the best within you.
You’re talking to your core. We talked about how different fabrics. And the kind of the mood that matches what you like kind of being comfortable in that helps you with confidence. We talked about choosing the right colors that can help you feel more confident. Tell me what else helps you and women in general.
Just be more confident in them, in themselves, in their own skin, especially in sexy situations, which are usually a little anxious.
Melina: Yeah, it can be really hard still, and honestly, everything is practice. I’m still considered a newlywed and I’m still very, very much [00:23:00] practicing every day,
Dan: Hmm.
Melina: um, to be more confident with my intimacy and figuring all that out. One thing I’ve learned in all my psychology classes in college is smiling. Smiling is so beautiful and confident. And if you can just look at yourself in the mirror and say You are beautiful, and smile at yourself. That is a confidence booster at any point of your day. A little confidence
Dan: Have you always been able to look at yourself in the mirror and smile and. Tell yourself that you’re beautiful.
Melina: I try. I’m still trying every day. I have a lot of insecurities I’m still working through, but I’m realizing through the small acts that my insecurities are actually things that make me more beautiful. Like I’m very insecure about my nose and I, everyone around me is like, your nose is fine. Stop saying that, but I’m insecure about it.
And, but the little things of like picking the right fabrics and picking the right colors, that, that make me feel more beautiful or. Figuring out the style that [00:24:00] I have that makes me feel the most beautiful, which is like business casual, makes me feel confident and beautiful. I stop thinking about my insecurities as much. And so it’s those little things that you can do to forget about your insecurities. ’cause really you’re the only one that sees them. I’m the only one that knows that thinks my nose is big. And if you think my nose is big, oh well, it doesn’t matter because I feel confident right now.
Dan: There’s not a lot you can do to change that. I guess
Melina: Yeah.
Dan: you can choose to hate it or you can choose to make it part of who you are and incorporate it. Integrate it.
Melina: Love it.
Dan: person with integrity is someone that has integrated their different parts into a whole, and I really like that. So, lingerie for a lot of women does help with more confidence in the bedroom
Melina: Mm-hmm.
Dan: is lingerie just for the wedding night.
Melina: No. Oh my goodness. No, and I feel like this is a trap we all fall into at some point where we’re thinking, oh, lingerie’s for the 20-year-old body [00:25:00] lingerie’s for the wedding night. Like, I don’t need to wear that anymore. He knows what I look like. It doesn’t matter,
Dan: Uh,
Melina: but it’s not about him. It’s not about all of those other external factors.
It’s about what makes you feel. dang, I look good right now. Like, this better be happening ’cause I look
Dan: uh.
Melina: And so, no lingerie can be it. It can just be something you lounge in. It can be something that I, I love shopping for lingerie because it makes me feel like, Ooh, exciting.
Dan: Uh,
Melina: look so good.
Dan: anticipation, yes,
Melina: But I’ve noticed, um, that’s one of the reasons going, one of the reasons during my, uh, empathy data for dainty lace is reasons women don’t like shopping for lingerie, or it doesn’t make them feel confident, is that comparison to models, and I talked about a little bit about this earlier, but
Dan: Which makes sense, right? Uhhuh.
Melina: ourselves constantly and it’s, it’s. The worst [00:26:00] evil. I honestly think comparison is the worst, that’s why I choose to only use mannequins in different colored mannequins in my website because it takes that comparison just for just a little bit. You can see the pieces, you can imagine yourself in the pieces. Um, so navigating that can be really difficult. Um, still for me it is. I compare myself. I’ve tried, I’m trying, um.
Dan: I don’t think the human brain is capable of not comparing our brain is a comparison machine, but it’s, are you using it against you or using it for you? I think that’s, that’s the real difference. And perhaps shopping online where you do have a lot of scantily clad women, whether you’re man looking at this or women looking at it, I don’t think it can help with, you know, just thinking about, how the model is different than who you are.
That’s just what’s gonna happen. But a shopping experience that, [00:27:00] where it’s not about the model, it’s about the piece and it’s about you and who you are, I think is what you’re talking about here. It’s, it’s about, we want good shopping experiences.
Melina: Yes.
Dan: is part of the fun of lingerie.
It’s what I hear you saying. So it’s gotta be a fun shopping experience.
Great. Well, I agree with you a hundred percent. As a husband, I love seeing my wife in lingerie and I think the shopping experience is fun and I feel way less guilty, uh, shopping model free at least, uh, ’cause. The product is still a good product, but there’s less husband guilt shopping, and I think my wife likes it when her husband is shopping for pretty things for her to wear. I think she likes that. But what do you think about that?
Melina: Yeah. And I think you getting it for her as a gift is a very amazing thing, as I want my husband to buy me things, but I do not want him to be looking on those websites. And there are other model free websites that just use [00:28:00] mannequins, but the real difference between them and dainty lace is the fact that it’s high coverage. Like even I, I know women who they go onto those model free websites, but they still get very intimidated at the pieces or they’re not ready to. Explore those pieces again after 30, 40, 50 years, and they’re like, that’s not for me. But going on to dainty lace, they can see themselves, they feel more comfortable transitioning back into it, that it, it produces more confidence in that sense.
Dan: Gotcha.
Melina: I’m trying really hard to promote not just the pieces, ’cause the pieces are pretty and I like showing them off on social media, but also sending out. Confidence posts every day saying, you are beautiful. ’cause if you can just see that for a second as you’re scrolling on Facebook or Instagram, you’re, oh, I am beautiful. Just a little reminder, I’m gorgeous.
Dan: Uh huh.
Melina: that can be another small thing that reminds you that you are amazing.
Dan: Yeah.
Melina: trying to do at day two.
Lace.
Dan: That is so good. [00:29:00] Um,
I think there’s so much value in the way we view ourselves if we invest in our, like it’s just that thought of looking in the mirror and saying, and pointing out all of our flaws versus can you stand in the mirror if even if you can do this without any clothes on, like look at your full body and then start beginning to appreciate.
The body that you have, and it might be hard at first,
Melina: Yes.
Dan: one person told me about her experience and it was like I started by being grateful that I have legs ’cause I can walk around. I’m grateful that I breathe. I’m grateful for my heart. I’m great for my arms ’cause I can hug my children. And that’s kind of how it started for her.
And then now she can look in the mirror and it’s like full of so much appreciation for who she is. Not just for the body that she has, but for the person she’s become because she has a body, she’s an embodied person.
Melina: Yeah.
Dan: That’s I think, the magic. I think that helps us all with more [00:30:00] confidence. Uh, I hope for some people perhaps.
Melina: No, that’s beautiful. The perception you have like realizing the divine within you and, and knowing that you are important. You’re important to God, you’re important to so many people here on earth, and the way you look at yourself should be in that same light of, wow, I am a divine being and. I should see myself that way.
I think that what you said was beautiful.
Dan: I love it. Well, Melina. You been married about two years or so. You’ve launched a lingerie business, which has come a long way from how you first felt about it. I’m sure you are just such a fast learner and you’re doing amazing things for women all over the world. So tell us people listening here as they walk away from this.
They’re gonna go check out your website, they’re gonna invest in more lingerie in the bedroom and whatever. [00:31:00] But I think people also wanna know. What would you say are your black belt sex tips? Or one tip, and I’m putting on the spot here, but it’s the idea that this is your advice for people that have.
Learn to feel a little more confident in themselves, and now they’re ready to take intimacy, sexual intimacy in their marriage to the next level. What advice or tips would you give them?
Melina: Oh man, what’s so sexy to me is it is gonna sound and it makes sense, but. When he, so he’s a cowboy. He grew up on a farm. He, they’re ranchers, but when he starts like saying y’all, and he’s like getting, and he is getting dancing and he puts his cowboy hat on. I don’t know what it is, but I love me a cowboy.
So if anyone hasn’t tried that yet. for it. Get yourself a cowboy hat, some boots. I, I [00:32:00] love my cowboy.
Dan: love it. That’s great. What is it about it that you find so appealing? So,
Melina: work,
Dan: yeah.
Melina: in making things work out on the farm. And you’re like, when I watch him bale hay
Dan: Uh huh
Melina: like throw it to cows, I’m like, wow, that is a man. That is a
Dan: Uhhuh.
Melina: man.
Dan: Yeah,
Melina: So it’s definitely the hard work that, the work ethic that, that speaks to my sexual soul.
Dan: agreed. A hundred percent. Great. Very good. Well, where can people go to learn more about dainty lace?
Melina: Yeah, so if you type in dainty lace.com, that pulls up our website. Also dainty dot lace dot confidence on most social media platforms. And again, it’s all about that confidence is what we’re trying to promote. So that’s why it’s in our social media handles.
Dan: That’s very good. Thank you.
Melina: Yeah, it’s been a pleasure.
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