Emotional connection is the foundation of a deeply intimate marriage. During our Couples Retreat two weeks ago, we explored this vital topic, and one couple shared that learning how to connect emotionally made the entire retreat worth it.
But why is emotional connection so challenging?
Often, it comes down to creating a safe space. When your spouse shares something vulnerable, like doubts about their faith or difficult feelings, itโs natural to feel anxious and want to jump in with advice, judgment, or solutions. This response, though well-intentioned, can send the message that their emotions arenโt safe to share.
Instead, the key is becoming a safe listener.
When you can sit with your partnerโs feelingsโwithout trying to control the conversation or fix the problemโyou open the door to deeper emotional connection.
One simple practice to build this skill is to share emotions daily. Think of the core emotions from Inside OutโJoy, Sadness, Anger, Fear, and Disgust.
Each day, take turns sharing when you felt one of these emotions. When itโs your turn to listen, simply listen.
Donโt judge, fix, or explain. Just try to understand. It may feel awkward at first, but with practice, this will strengthen your bond.
As you both create space to be heard and understood, youโll find that emotional connection becomes easier and more natural. Remember, emotional intimacy is the gateway to deeper connection in every part of your marriage.