| It was a super hot, arousing, fun, and incredibly connecting evening! It was my turn to sit in the chair, giving all my attention to Emily as she flowed along to the music. We were joining dozens of other couples during the lap dance instruction segment of our Anatomy of Arousal Virtual Getaway a week and a half ago – which, by the way, was really fun! Our lap dance instructor and her husband taught us that the key to being a good lap dancer isn’t necessarily being a good dancer per se. Rather, it’s about how well you can “follow the connection.” To follow the connection, she had us focus on these four things: 1. Set the tone of “I want you. I desire you” And, “I’m going to seduce you / be seduced by you” 2. Maintain eye contact with each other. 3. Eyes that say, “I see you and I like you” 4. Maintain touch as much as possible – don’t break the connectionEnjoy the confidence of knowing you’re the turn-on for the other person I got to thinking, these are also ingredients for great sex too. Good lovers intuitively follow the intimate vibration of the connection between them, leading to arousal and pleasure. I wonder if some couples get frustrated when approaching intimacy in the wrong direction: touching and “pleasuring,” hoping it leads to connection, when they’ll have a better time if they start with following their connection instead. Whether it be a lap dance, a passionate kiss, or a meaningful sexual encounter, try this tonight: follow the connection first, and then let the rest flow from there. P.S. If following the connection doesn’t come easy when it comes to sex, you’ll want to check out this free training here, and get started with a free discovery call! |
