168: How Your Marital Power Dynamics Are Affecting Your Sexual Relationship

by | Jan 5, 2024 | General Posts, Podcast

Who in your relationship has more of a say in general, who in your relationship organizes themselves around the other more? Are there any unaddressed resentments that you deal with in your relationship right now? Do some things feel just one sided in your marriage? Couples that thrive have a shared sense of power in the relationship power. In this context is defined receiving influence from the other.

Sometimes we create hierarchies in our relationship (meaning one person is more important than the other, or the general order of things is like God, then husband, then wife, for example). When we create these hierarchies in our relationship, we set ourselves up for power struggles and this often undermines sexual desire and intimacy in the marriage.

I work with couples that want to grow their sexual relationship. And that’s one of the purposes of this podcast. The reality is you grow the sexual relationship by strengthening the marriage and upgrading the relationship dynamic. One way to quickly improve your sex life is by paying close attention to the power dynamics at play in a relationship. And some of them might be invisible to you or very covert. My guest today is Bonnie Young

She’s a licensed marriage and family therapist licensed in Utah in Washington state. She’s also currently working on her PhD. 

She’s super smart, caring. And as you’ll get to know, very experienced in this topic we’re going to talk about today.

She’s also a mom of two, almost three children and runs a mental health clinic with almost a dozen therapists working for her in two states in her spare time. 

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<h3>Dan Purcell</h3>

Dan Purcell

Dan and his wife Emily Purcell are the founders of Get Your Marriage On! They are on a mission to strengthen marriages by making lovemaking incredibly fun and deeply connecting. Dan is a sex coach. They are also the creators of the popular Intimately Us and Just Between Us apps that have been downloaded over 750,000 times. They are the host of the popular Get Your Marriage On! podcast with over 1 million listens. In addition to their coaching program, they host romantic retreat getaways for couples, and put on workshops on how to have a great sex life and deeper intimacy. Dan and Emily met in middle school and have been married for over 20 years and have 6 kids. Dan loves cracking dad jokes, running marathons, planning the next creative date night with his sweetheart, and enjoys the magnificent outdoors around their St George home.

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