169: 8 Reasons Why Sex in Marriage is Hard (But Also Worth the Effort!)

by | Jan 12, 2024 | General Posts, Podcast

Sex can be hard for couples for many reasons. And if you feel like it’s hard for you right now, you’re not alone. Sex is so highly personal and it’s a very anxious behavior, yet it’s also at the core of who we are. So it’s like this dichotomy: we want to be close to another person, yet, in order to get there, we have to overcome a lot of nervousness and anxiety in order to enjoy that. And by the way, sex is so much more than just two bodies bumping into each other; our minds and our spirits are highly involved in sex as well.

Humans are the only species on earth capable of making meaning in sex. Dogs don’t have sex and think, “Oh, he really loves me.” Or, “She was really into that.” Dogs and other animals don’t do that. It’s a very human thing to find meaning in sex. And, that’s a double-edged sword for a lot of people.

The anxiety in sex make sex a horrible experience or a difficult experience to enjoy for some people. But the flip side of that is the transcendent capacity for deep connection that can come through sex. It is one of the most unique human and wonderful things about being a person.

So in this episode, we dive deep into why sex can be hard for couples. Understanding our hangups and why we have them is the first step to overcoming them!


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<h3>Dan Purcell</h3>

Dan Purcell

Dan and his wife Emily Purcell are the founders of Get Your Marriage On! They are on a mission to strengthen marriages by making lovemaking incredibly fun and deeply connecting. Dan is a sex coach. They are also the creators of the popular Intimately Us and Just Between Us apps that have been downloaded over 750,000 times. They are the host of the popular Get Your Marriage On! podcast with over 1 million listens. In addition to their coaching program, they host romantic retreat getaways for couples, and put on workshops on how to have a great sex life and deeper intimacy.Dan and Emily met in middle school and have been married for over 20 years and have 6 kids. Dan loves cracking dad jokes, running marathons, planning the next creative date night with his sweetheart, and enjoys the magnificent outdoors around their St George home.

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