191: What the Heck is ‘Relational Self-awareness,’ and How Does it Help You Be a Better Lover? with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

It’s so easy to notice how our spouse is making choices that get in the way of them getting what they really want.  Our brains expend tremendous amount of energy trying to get our spouses to see things our way, because from our vantage point, they’re self-sabotaging, right? It’s so obvious (to us anyway). 

Of course, our spouses think think the same thing about us. 🙂

If you or someone you love has ever felt this way, then this podcast episode is for you. We’re going to talk about relational self-awareness: what it is, how to get it, and how to build a better relationship with your lover. 

My guest today is Dr. Alexandra Solomon. She is a professor of marriage and family therapy at Northwestern university in Chicago. I recently read one of her books, Love Every Day, and we have a great chat about the principles in her book and those she teaches in her class.

If you’ve enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources:

How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less

Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13

Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13