We learned last year that about 78% of the ladies that follow us on Instagram say oral sex is part of their marriage. This is consistent with the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, an annual study performed by Indiana University.
The same study also reported that women are far more likely to reach orgasm when oral sex is part of the sexual encounter. Of course it’s totally fine if oral sex is not your thing. Drawing general conclusions from studies like this one can be tricky because there’s so much variation on sexual preference and experience.
I also believe orgasm is not the only measure of a great sexual experience. Sex is just a part of the greater relationship. Sex can be a powerful language to express desire, trust, fondness, and gratitude. Regular sexual experiences where both feel free to be themselves, are pleasurable, fun, highly erotic, and deeply connecting makes for strong marriages.
But technique and skill DOES matter, and we’re talking about oral sex today! So to prepare for this Hump Day email, I asked the ladies that follow us on Instagram at Get Your Marriage On! what advice they’d give husbands when it comes to making oral sex more pleasurable and bonding.
Here’s the top five things women said:
- Go slow, and don’t go for the clitoris at first.
- Let me relax into it
- Use your hands on other pleasurable parts of my body while doing it
- Once you’ve found the right place, right rhythm, right pressure, DON’T STOP!
- Just do it as a loving gesture
What do you think of this list? How have you found your relationship to become richer through improving your ability to genuinely connect and share pleasure?
