Picture this: It’s a typical day. You’re lying in bed. Snoozing your alarm clock for the third time, your resolve to get to the gym weakening. You were interrupted again last night from a child that needed you. And as you awake the demands of the day, press on you. Lists appear in your mind what shopping needs to be done, which child has which appointment, the field trip that you volunteered to go on, the assignment at church you agreed to do, and so on and so on.
You get out of bed already tired to go about your morning routine. But today, a genie appears and grants you a special wish for one day. You can do what you want to do. What would you decide? What would you do?
Have you lost yourself?
My friend and guest, Ariel Finlinson, years ago was in a situation where her husband and kids are going to be out of town for a few days.
And she had an entire weekend to herself. She had no idea what she’d do with her time. That’s the day she realized that she had somehow lost herself in motherhood. She had lost touch of herself, lost the relationship with herself in her busy and noble life of mothering.
As you know, this podcast is dedicated to helping Christian couples get out of a rut in their sex life. Today’s topic isn’t sexy, per se, but it’s really important and ties into developing a stronger sex life. The relationship with ourselves is crucial to our relationship with others. You can’t give from an empty well, and you can’t lift others to higher ground if you’re not on higher ground yourself.
Ariel recently received her master’s degree in family life education. She’s super fun, sharp. And the host at the Ladies Talking Love podcast.
Today, we’re going to talk about five ideas for mothers to reconnect with themselves in their life.
Key takeaways
- It’s easy to lose touch with yourself in the busy, noble work of parenting.
- Your relationship with yourself shapes every other relationship you have.
- You can’t pour from an empty well—caring for yourself fuels connection.
- Small, intentional steps help you reconnect with who you are.
- Caring for yourself is one of the best gifts you can give your marriage.
This ties directly back to your marriage. A fuller, more grounded you makes for richer emotional intimacy, helps you grow into a secure, settled partner, and keeps you from drifting into being roommates instead of lovers.
Take Care of Yourself and Your Relationship
One of the best things you can do to nourish yourself, rest, have fun, and connect with your spouse on a deeper level is to intentionally get away together once in a while. Even a short reset can do wonders for how you feel about yourself and your marriage.
If you’d like real, practical tools to get out of a rut, let go of resentment, and feel great together again, our Next Level program is built for exactly that—and you can also explore our couples retreats when the timing is right.
