116: Why “Nice Guys” Have Bad Sex Lives: A Sextimony

by | Jan 6, 2023 | General Posts, Podcast

Are you a “nice guy” or married to a “nice guy?” “Nice” isn’t to be confused with genuinely kind and caring. By nice, I mean one that hints around at what he wants from his wife, but doesn’t really ask for it in case she doesn’t want to either, or that it might upset her or that he might be disappointed later.

So a “nice guy” is just never really direct about what he wants, doesn’t really own it, and his emotional center seems to be revolve around his wife rather than taking ownership for his own feelings. This is also the type of person that goes the extra mile for his wife, but has ulterior motives in it, and when he doesn’t get what he wants or when it doesn’t kind of pan out the way he wants, even though he never clearly expressed what he wanted from the beginning, he feels cheated.

My guest today is Brian Wagstaff. Brian is a member of my next level coaching program and a graduate of my men’s coaching program. Brian is a successful entrepreneur and has a wonderful family and a recovering “nice guy.” Today he shares his journey of recognizing his nice guy tendencies, the struggles he faced in his marriage, what changes he had to make, and how he made them, and how his marriage and intimacy is tremendously better today than it was before.


By the way, would you like to work with me and my team to take your marriage and intimacy to the next level in 2023? I invite you to check out my coaching program called Next Level. We open the doors from time to time and now is the opportunity to join. The current deadline to join is Sunday, January 8th at midnight, so don’t miss that.

Also, as of this recording, we also have three spots left for upcoming couple’s marriage retreat. This retreat is in March, and these retreats are amazing, and they go really in depth and we’ll guide you and your spouse through whatever challenges and obstacles you’re currently facing, keeping you from deeper intimacy.

These retreats are also a lot of fun. Sign up now!

<h3>Dan Purcell</h3>

Dan Purcell

Dan and his wife Emily Purcell are the founders of Get Your Marriage On! Their marriage went through a bit of a renaissance a few years ago and wanted to share what they learned with other couples. They created a fun & sexy bedroom game app called Intimately Us that has been downloaded over 300,000. They put on events and retreats for couples.Dan is the host of the Get Your Marriage On! podcast. Dan is a Life Coach that coaches other couples and individuals on how to have a great marriage, deeper intimacy, and fulfilling sex life.Dan and Emily have been married for over 18 years and have 6 kids. Dan loves cracking dad jokes, running marathons, planning the next creative date night with his sweetheart, and enjoys the magnificent outdoors around their St George home.

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