149: Afraid Your Husband Will Reject or Ignore You AGAIN tonight? Featuring Dr. Laurie Watson

by | Aug 25, 2023 | General Posts, Podcast

What popular media has taught us

The media and stereotypical culture norms show that men are the ones usually sexually pursuing while the women are seducing and being pursued. Our culture is saturated with these tropes and themes: think James Bond, Indiana Jones, or many other shows that show this theme.

But what happens if you’re in a marriage where you, as the wife, find yourself often pursuing him? And he’s the one withdrawing, needing to be wooed? Or you’re the one with more acceptance and freedom about your sexuality, eager to explore and pursue novelty and sexual fun while he’s not so sure about his sexuality or has a lot of hangups?

Is it because you’re not attractive enough?

It’s common for women in these marriages to feel like they must not be attractive enough. You might have gone through a lot of effort to look and dress pretty (or undress) for the occasion and his rejection can really hurt. It’s disregulating to feel rejected, and you wonder what’s wrong with you. It’s easy to get reactive in these situations, and start a downward spiral. You may even be wondering what you can do to get him interested in you sexually, or wonder why he withdraws, encouraging you to pursue even more.

Let’s ask a therapist AND higher desire wife

My guest today is Dr. Laurie Watson. She’s a sex therapist and marriage therapist and also a married woman who is the one with more sexual desire and the pursuer in her own marriage. I figured she’s uniquely qualified to answer questions I’ve had about higher desire wives. I’ve found this conversation enlightening and refreshing. Laurie even gives very specific step-by-step suggestions on how to approach the subject with your spouse and how to build a better sexual relationship.

Get Help

If you’re in a marriage where there’s hard feelings because of a gap between the pursuer or distancer, or find differences in sexual desire levels to be a sore topic, don’t stay there in misery. Get help. Check out Next Level, my coaching program for couples. You can meet with me and my team. It’s really affordable, flexible, has TONS of value, and geared towards busy couples.

Another option is our in-person intensive in Dallas Forth Worth Texas area this October. Our retreats are 4 days, 3 nights and are in-depth and challenging in a good way. They’re also really fun and romantic too! We have a few spots left. You can reserve your spot here!

<h3>Dan Purcell</h3>

Dan Purcell

Dan and his wife Emily Purcell are the founders of Get Your Marriage On! Their marriage went through a bit of a renaissance a few years ago and wanted to share what they learned with other couples. They created a fun & sexy bedroom game app called Intimately Us that has been downloaded over 300,000. They put on events and retreats for couples.Dan is the host of the Get Your Marriage On! podcast. Dan is a Life Coach that coaches other couples and individuals on how to have a great marriage, deeper intimacy, and fulfilling sex life.Dan and Emily have been married for over 18 years and have 6 kids. Dan loves cracking dad jokes, running marathons, planning the next creative date night with his sweetheart, and enjoys the magnificent outdoors around their St George home.

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