Our goal with Get Your Marriage On! is to help bad marriages become good, and help good marriages become great. We want to inspire and encourage couples in three ways:
First, you can’t improve your marriage without good & healthy information. Through Get Your Marriage On! you get to hear from experts with thousands of hours of experience studying and teaching what can take your marriage from good to great.
I want to encourage you to keep an open mind and apply your hearts to understanding. Don’t be surprised if you feel a little pressure to change a habit or your way of thinking. Lean in to it. The gain will be worth the pain. I invite you to find at least one thing you can incorporate into your life to make your marriage better.
Second, nothing else in life will give you a higher return on happiness than investing in your marriage. And most marriages require work, tolerance, patience, forgiveness, and A LOT of…. “investment”.
The most in-depth longitudinal study on health and happiness ever conducted is by Harvard researchers who tracked 268 individuals over 80 years of their lives. The study has found that healthy marriages & relationships are the single most significant factor contributing to health, longevity, and quality of life. The data shows those with happy marriages live 8 years longer on average! Your marriage matters tremendously. I invite you to commit to investing more in your spouse and your marriage.
Third, we want to encourage couples to hold hands, put arms around each other more, and to up the quantity and quality of healthy intimate touch in the relationship. We want to encourage couples to cherish each other, and show that you sincerely appreciate and care for each other.
You never know how long you’ll have each other in this life. I want to share two events that happened to me last week to illustrate this point.
Just yesterday I was at Orange Peel, a favorite smoothie spot. I got chatting with an older man waiting for his order. He told me he comes every other day to buy a drink for his wife, it’s her favorite breakfast. He says the drink is too sweet for him, and she’s not doing well health wise, so he comes and gets her favorite smoothie just for her.
Another inspiring event that has reminded me how fragile life can be has to do with my high school friend Spencer, a father of three with terminal cancer. He passed away last week. A little while before his passing I visited Spencer in the hospital and the tender care that his wife Jenn showed him speaks volumes of the special relationship they worked hard to create. They cherish each other. Decide right now to cherish each moment you have with each other.
So lean in, invest, and cherish.
My real heroes with Get Your Marriage On! is you — the reader of this blog post. I want to congratulate you on being intentional about your marriage! This sends a message that marriages matter. Strong marriages lead to strong families, and strong families lead to a strong community. Thank you for being a part of this community. You inspire me!